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January 15, 2017 Filed in faith,parenting

i have been thinking about blogging for weeks but my thoughts have just been very jumbled.
i couldn’t come up with words about living rooms or paint colors or recipes because…
ya’ll… this raising big kids thing is no joke.
parenting kids at any age is no easy job but this whole tween/teenager/semi-grown kids phase???
dude.

i love my kids to the moon and back.
being their mom has been and will forever be the best thing i ever do.
i think they are fabulous.  i think they are smart.  i know they are a gift straight from the Lord.
but oh my heck… sometimes it’s craaaaazy!


it’s not any one particular child or circumstance that is tough.
no one is perfect and i would never expect that from them.
One of the biggest challenges for me continues to be how different every single day can be!!!
i never know what to expect!
between the homework, teachers, practices, coaches, peer pressures, mean girls, mean boys, bosses, emotions, hormones, chores, cars, deadlines and 50 other things… it is always something to get your heart rate up in one way or another on a daily basis.
sometimes its for good things where you are super proud of your kid’s accomplishments and other times it’s… not.
sometimes i am so mad at the way my kid has been treated.
sometimes i am so mad at the way my kid was treating someone else.
and on and on and on.

i have been a mama for almost 22 years.
i have messed up so much.
so badly wish i could go back and know then what i know now.
i look back and think “how could you not see that megan?!”
sighhhhhh.
i wish i had responded with much more grace to poor behavior.
(but in defense of that mom back then… she hadn’t slept a full night in a decade soooo…)
not that i was a wild screaming dictator before but when my kids were little i felt i could “fix” things with a time out or a nap.
and a loud voice too.
so when they got older… my voice got louder & naps and time-outs turned into grounding.
and lots of frustration – from me and from my kids too.
all these years later i can see that “bad” behavior is something that can be met with questions, discussions & gentleness instead of shouting, anger & consequences.   i just could not wrap my mind around that before.
if you had told me several years ago in my own words what i just said i would have told you that you were naive & clueless and your kids are probably walking all over you.
i still believe in consequences but quite often the natural consequences are enough.
an example could be if a child didn’t do their homework & the coach says she can’t play in a game that week – that is a natural consequence.
instead of me laying down more punishment on top of that i can say “what is your plan to not miss your homework again?  how can i help you meet that goal? why do you think you didn’t do that before? how can you do things differently now”

in the past when there were poor choices made i would get mad.
mad at the kid.  mad at the choice.   just plain mad.
it was all reaction and no responding.
and then somewhere along the way i just got tired of feeling mad all the time.
something switched and now i have a desire to understand their thinking, talk it out calmly (or attempt to) and asking where they are struggling and if they know why?
it doesn’t always work BUT i feel so much better after we have parented in that way.
it feels right!
i can lay my head on my pillow at night knowing that i was calm… i was loving… i wasn’t manipulating guilt or pouring on shame… and i was honest.
(of course i still fail at this often because i am human)
because no matter what i want my kids to feel SEEN & HEARD & LOVED even if they screwed up majorly.
and if i am always mad – HOW would they feel those things?

when they were younger i didn’t really understand that all these little shorties running around my house were PEOPLE.
that sounds ridiculous i know but we just had baby after baby and it was kind of a decade of survival mode.
not in a traumatic kind of way but in a sleep deprived, out numbered, monotonous eat-cry-sleep-repeat kind of way.
there wasn’t a lot of thinking about their teenage years.
i could basically control their whole world… our entire day was doing whatever i wanted us all to do.
and when they got a little older – suddenly they didn’t always want to be part of my plan.
letting go of control was and still is hard!
but it’s necessary for them to become their own person.
i don’t want five little Meg robots who are just like me.
i want happy kids who feel awesome to be themselves even if (and especially if) they are the opposite of me or their dad.

each of us is given free will – even my own children! (gasp!)
no matter how much i try to instill my values onto my kids – they still get to choose their own path.
period.
i have to remind myself time and again that a bad choice does not equal bad kid.
nor does a poor choice equal a crappy mother who is to blame.
and instead of scrambling to fix it or rescuing them from the natural consequence or laying down my own consequence on top of what has already happened… i can step back, assess the damage, try to understand why it happened and ask where is the lesson in this situation?
and if necessary – issue a consequence that is fair and not made hastily in anger.

OH HOW I WISH I COULD HAVE PARENTED LIKE THIS 20 YEARS AGO!!!

there is nothing that can be done to change the past.
i can apologize when i am wrong (something i suck at!) and i can strive to do better in the future.
i can be honest with my kids and with my husband.
i need to confide in my girlfriends and listen to their advice.
being fake helps no one.
i can change the conversation in my home about choices, actions & expectations in love and not anger.
and therapy helps everybody.
it’s true.
everyone should go to therapy… it’s good for the soul.

if i was excellent at this parenting gig – i wouldn’t need Jesus.
I am so glad i don’t have to do this on my own!   i am so happy i have a Savior who is also my friend.
i can pray for His grace to cover the mistakes in my mothering.
i pray that i’ll show His love to my kids and when i don’t do that well that HE would love them even harder.
i pray that He will relentlessly pursue my kids’ hearts in whatever way He chooses.
that He will give me faith to trust His plan for my family in the good, the bad and the downright ugly.

parenting big kids is way harder than i expected and 100 times cooler than i ever thought.
i had no idea teenagers were so much fun!  obviously it’s not fun all of the time but way more than i ever knew to expect.
it’s a roller coaster of feeling all the emotions to extremes practically every day.
as a mom to 5 older kids – i am exhausted and exhilarated all the time.
i’m not awesome at it but i’m not going to give up trying.
i am overjoyed to be their mom.

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Cassandra - I just came back to read this post a second time. Thank you for this post, my oldest is 6 so I have a ways to go with this parenting gig I appreciate truth from those “ahead” of me. And thank goodness for God’s grace in it all!!

Rebekah - I rarely comment, but this just spoke to me! The thing about controlling our children’s behaviors is–we truly can’t, even when we think we can. Control is always about ME making MYSELF feel less anxious about getting assignments done on time, or about ME being less embarrassed by their mistake, or less worried that they’re going to end up in juvi or homeless or a not nice human being. Control is a technique I wrongly employ to help ME! Why is that my go to parenting? I don’t know. But your message resonates with me. Love, parent, discipline, but give up the control. God has me and them all in His hands anyhow. Thank you so much, Megan. I love your cheerful, happy corner of the web!

Laura - SO. VERY. TRUE.

Thank you, Meg for putting into words what us older moms know to be truth. May younger moms use your words to benefit their families.

Leslie @Farm fresh Fun - This is gold and why I’ve been following you for years as your kids and mine grow!
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Laura - Such truth! My kids are 12-25 and I tell people all the time I thought it was suppose to get easier! It’s so much harder than I thought it would be. Their problems are so REAL and BIG! Parenting big kids isn’t for wimps, that’s for sure. Thankful every day for God’s grace and peace. Keep soldiering on 🙂

Heidi Garrett - Oh how I needed to hear this today! I have two teenagers and two littles, and somehow 3rd grade homework and preschool drama are NOTHING in comparison to raising teens. I am winging it!!! It is wonderful, but so tricky and new. Thank you for your encouraging post!

Bekkah - Hi Meg :]

I have been following your blog for a few years now, and it’s so crazy to see how old your children are now!! Especially Annie because she was so little when I first started reading, and she always reminded me a little of myself. 😛

Thanks for sharing this! I am particularly sitting with this line: “i still believe in consequences but quite often the natural consequences are enough…”

because that’s what God has been showing me about his heart towards me. Bless.

Have a good weekend!! xo

jennibell - I hope I have time to come back and read more of these comments. . .but as it is it has taken me 5 days to get around to this one — and I’ve been motivated to read it b/c I knew it would be chock-full of “good stuff”. Meg, love your heart and your honesty and your thoughts. Thank you for them. We have 4 ages 13-18. . .I have followed your blog for YEARS and taken MUCH of your advice b/c you’re right — we cannot do this “alone”. Listening to friends is very important (is that weird that I consider someone I don’t know IRL a “friend”?). Anyway, I shared this on my FB b/c last week I shared http://amycarney.com/blog/walk-away-from-doing-these-8-things-for-your-teen-this-school-year/ and got (some) flack. . .I’m a MS teacher and Amy Carney’s thoughts just hit me right. Your post was more about Jesus and love and mistakes and grace and a good balance — I agree with and will continue to refer to both posts often. Thank you for taking your time, opening up, and letting us know that we are not alone and encouraging us to be “better”.

Iris Brown - This is powerful & heart wrenching. I recognize myself in the shameful before & after. This post highlights that we are in a position to make changes so we are not reacting when we only have fumes (which is often) & to make provisions by complete dependence on Jesus.

I made these harsh & unfair judgments on my mother raising 3 girls by herself in even more dire circumstances. Only when I started raising my own kids I realize I need to cut her some slack and now towards myself.

OMG this was so good & so helpful so powerful! (Sigh) I need to chew on this for a while.

Lindsay Soetaert - THANK YOU for sharing your wisdom with us!! I had 4 children in under 6 years and I totally resonated with your statement about having baby after baby and how our mind has to shift into realizing they are actual people. And I certainly don’t want little robots of me, or just robots in general. I LOVE their personality and fire and everything else that makes them unique and wonderful and at times challenging. I have printed out a few of your blog posts in the past as reminders, and this one will definitely be one of them!

Carrie - Oh goodness this is appropriate for me. My oldest is 9 and we have entered an unusual phase. My sweet and happy little girl is a moody and often disrespectful little girl. Not to anyone outside of our family but nevertheless it has left me floundering. We have talked to her gently and my husband tends to react before thinking but I finally had it tonight. I told her that I knew that she was going through a lot and that she might not always be in the best mood but that being disrespectful was stopping today or there will have to be consequences. I told her that instead of snapping at me, using unkind words, or rolling her eyes that she needed to let me knew she was not in a good mood or that she was having a rough time. I tell her a lot that we are both learning this tween stage together and we need to figure it out. I have not lost my cool but I actually think that might happen soon and it might be a wake up call to her. But currently my 6 year old is a breeze!

Tanya H - I have thought about this a LOT lately. Especially the natural consequences, vs adding my own. Isn’t life challenging enough?? Sheesh mom!
I have kids close to Talby and Annie’s ages and a newborn. I am SO much calmer now, with all of them. I care so much less about how other mom’s do “it”, and what other people think I should do, and so much more about what my kids think and how they feel about things. Maybe it comes with age, or just the time spent being the mom… But I love your post and agree with everything. Nice to know we’re all learning and improving… 🙂

Lori Tacchino - I love this so much, Meg! Thank you so much for being real and honest.

Kimberlee - I love you.
That is all.

Annie - This is so good. I’m struggling with yelling and resentment, quickly followed by guilt and despair. I needed this today. Thank you for sharing.

Louise - Oh wow, Meg, I needed to read this today. I have yelled too much today and reacted poorly to my boys’ poor behavior. Thank you so much for the opportunity to press the reset button, apologize, and try again. So grateful for you.

Andrea - AMEN!
My oldest, who just turned 22, was home after graduating college in December – but just before she moved 2200 miles away to be on her own. She saw me dealing with our youngest and said “where was that Mom when I was little?” It made me cry later (I didn’t want to cry in front of her and make her feel guilty) because she’s right. The yeller, the mom who is tired and frustrated would yell and ground and threaten and use guilt, and that mom isn’t here any more. I think the hardest thing about her moving away from home to be her own person was letting her go, and for me knowing the wrong or right, her childhood is her past now. I wish I knew then what I know now, like you said. Adult kids are awesome and cool and so much fun, and the worries are there but different, so I’m not done being her mom, but I do have a different kind of importance now. God’s got us, Meg.
Great post!

cathie w. - Ditto everyone’s positive comments!!!!

While reading I kept thinking YES….This is how I feel and what I am striving for as a mother.

Thank you for putting this into words and sharing so opening.

Lisa - I remember the moment I realized my 5, where little people.
It changed me. After I quit crying.
Remember no one is perfect, no one is the mother that they really want to be, we’re too human. And how would kids even survive life, if they have that perfect upbringing?
I don’t know you, but I know you are a good mom.
When you’re having doubts,,, go to walmart, look around, observe. Or watch the news.
We’ve experienced, that about the time our girls have left the nest, they get feisty and critical of their parents. The mature ones have said, hey, you did what you knew to do,nobody’s perfect.
The less mature ones, well, they’re still feisty. Their choice.
Don’t get discouraged.
The lord, he knows our hearts. He understands.

Jen - Oh Meg, THANK YOU so much for this post. I feel like I’m walking around MAD too much and I don’t want to be there! I love your advice about meeting bad behavior with questions, discussion & gentleness; that is something I am going to try much harder to do! Blessings on the rest of your week!

Elisa - From what you shared, I think you’ll like these two things:
book: Seven Desires of Every Heart
Instagram, blog, etc: Danny Silk – loving your kids on purpose https://instagram.com/p/BO9zyigDjXT/

kensie - love.
I’m a mom to a 1, 2, 3 year old.
Stuff is tough.
Thanks for the perspective and rubber-meets-the-road advice.

I’m a little afraid of feeling all of what I feel now PLUS what you say is on the way.
Oy.

Thank the Lord we have Him.
Love your writing- Kensie

LIsa - Oh Meg –
I just clicked over to your blog today on a break at work and
I think you wrote this JUST for me!
I also need to remind myself that my kids are not robots of me.
and they have their own free will (double gasp!).
It WAS so easy when they were little and we could plan their days!
We have really great kids , but the ups and downs and change of plans each day/hour can be exhausting. I feel like numerous texts come in each day about new plans with friends or projects due, etc…..
Today our second daughter turns 13! So fitting to be reminded of great ideas for raising great kids!
Thank you, Lisa

Kristin F. - This was so, so good and something I absolutely needed to hear. I’m a yeller and the more frustrated I get, the louder I become. Just last night I had to back down on some consequences because they were too harsh for the action. Thanks for helping me keep myself in check. xo

Sally Carne - GREAT article. I also have recently switched to the “let’s sit down and try to understand the choice made” instead of punishments for my teens and step children (we are a blended family with 6 kids, all tweens or teens). I finally figured out that in the end I will feel better about trying to parent out of love than expectations, but getting here was rough, just as you explained above! I have been one of your original followers of your blog, and I have loved every entry over the years – I found you while searching for the rainbow cake oh so many years ago. Thank you, I enjoy your experiences!

Jennie - my son (my first) is ten months today, and i soaked up every single word of this. not that i’ll never get mad. but thank you.

Kristin S - Meg, I just shared this on my Facebook wall. That’s a lot of guts since I don’t even have kids! BUT so many friends have teens and I just couldn’t not share. It’s the same people I screenshotted (when did that become a verb?) your podcast with Kendra last summer and sent it to them. Friends who need hope. I love your perspective from experience and love and Jesus.

Thank you for sharing!

SC - Needed this today. I opened up my computer during lunch today to google “how to discipline my 15 year old boy”….I was out of ideas..he does so well most of the time then out of no where -BOOM….he’s made a poor decision that has landed him in trouble…and it makes me so angry… I start blaming my parenting….I worry about what he’s teaching his younger siblings,..it just a hopeless cycle and I end up MAD…and he knows I’m mad…and I know he feels guilty but what good does that do? My first instinct is to “discipline” by punishments…taking phone away, grounding, no social media….but I realize it doesn’t work… today I was out of ideas…I realize my google search was on how to punish… not how to nurture, teach and be loving when my child has done something wrong. Thank you for the lesson today.

Christin - These words spoke right to my heart. Thank you

Courtney - yes. thank you for these words. I needed them. I feel like I want to laugh, cry, smile and jump up for joy all at the same time. this parenting thing is NO joke!! (6 kids. 2 adopted. ages 15-6 years old.)

Kim B - Well said! Thanks for sharing!

Routhie - Thank you for being so honest and sharing your wisdom. I’ve got a tween and a teen and I find myself forever wishing things were done differently. Sometimes, you just need to hear from someone else the obvious thing to do.

Amy - Yep. I am right where you are. I have 7 children 21,19,17,15,13,10 and 8. It’s a roller coaster I never expected. In a lot of ways it’s harder parenting with more sleep. The things you worry about seem more serious. Instead of worrying if they should eat chicken nuggets I am worried they will drive carefully. I am a worrier by nature and so teenage years are especially hard for me. And wow I am amazed how times have changed. I am the old fashioned mom that still gives her teenagers curfews, don’t allow them to spend the night with the opposite sex, and gives the consequences for messing up grades or attitudes. But I am learning to let them have control and show them trust in situations that make me uncomfortable too. That has been hard. I think like you said it’s a control thing. But giving them rules and trust is turning out to be a great balance. I am working on not flipping my lid in situations. Being graceful is so much better but more important than that is admitting my mistakes and apologizing. I think that has helped our relations with our teens to show them we are trying to figure this out with them and we get things wrong too. We aren’t the dictators and demand respect. We have to show them respect just like what we want from them. Thanks for writing this post!

Ella - Our kids are ages 20, 17, 16, 15, 6 & 2. I’m so grateful to see my own motherly ruminations here today. Busy moms have trouble connecting regularly with other busy moms in those deeper & so meaningful discussions these days. I needed to see/hear what I had rolling around in my own grey matter in order to fully process it. I was an angry mom for years when my eldest was transitioning from elementary to middle school. That was on the heels of a very literally smoke & mirrors crazy custody battle regarding DH’s DD. It wasn’t until I took my eldest for some needed counseling that I realized how angry I’d become & how dysfunctional our parenting was heading as a result. My biggest take away was learning to let go of all the things I truly had no control over. That included my kiddos mistakes weren’t mine & I didn’t need to own them any more. I just needed to help them figure out why they made them & how they could do better the next time they were faced with a similar situation. I don’t believe I’ll ever stop learning & growing. These kids are constant teachers & God’s grace is amazingly generous.

Whitney - I love this. Thank you! I hope you never give up blogging completely.😊

Shannon - Thank you for this post. I’ve been struggling in some areas lately….and this was good to read! Thank you for your raw and honest words! Mothering is a very hard AND rewarding job! There’s a whole lot of “if I knew then what I know now”….! I get that!! I will treasure this post in days to come!! Thank you!

Ann - Best post ever. As a mom of littles I take all the wisdom of more experienced moms that I can get. Thank you!!

Nina - Awesome article! I’m just getting into the older kid stage, my oldest son just turned 11 and he has three brothers 5,7,9. I feel like I’m mad a lot and I hate that! I also struggle with their poor choices being a reflection of my parenting.

LindaP - Love this. Plain and simply love it. Having 2 teen boys right now is the hardest and greatest thing ever and you captured it all. We don’t do ourselves any favors by pretending it’s all good all the time. The day in and day out can be tough but the overall is the best!

Alice H - Being a parent is so HARD!!! I agree with everything you wrote.
I have a senior daughter who is getting ready to graduate and leave me for college, a sophomore son, and then I started over and have a first grade boy also. Every day, every age, every stage is a different struggle.

I have been struggling with the homework situation with my sophomore boy. I was so mad. I finally had to step back and let go. I told him I knew what he was capable of. And that if he needed help, all he had to do was ask and I would get him tutoring, etc. So hopefully now with me off of his butt, he will realize what he wants to do.

Kristen - It looks to me like they love having you as their mom, as much as you love being their mom. Thank you for the way that you share your family, and God’s role in it. You inspire me to be a real-er mom to my 4 kiddos, and I’m grateful for you!

Tina - Its like you KNEW that I needed this post. Thank you. I never thought that when I was struggling with 5 babies in 6 years that anything could possibly be harder….then I had teenagers. I want to be more compassionate and understanding, but I’m also walking a fine line with a couple of kids who have behavior problems that sometimes puts them in danger. I also wish I had known when they were younger how lonely parenting teens can be. There’s always a village when you need advice about diapers or potty training or feeding or bottles, etc, but I find that my teenagers problems are not mine to share with others. Its a little isolating.

Thanks again for the great advice.

Kimberly - Your blog is my favorite!! I love all of it– and I especially love these parenting blogs because I have 3 little ones 5 and under. It’s nice to hear from someone further down the parenting road than me. Someone besides my mom– who’s is wonderful, but, you know– it’s good to hear from a neutral party. Thanks for sharing this!

Lee - Oh Meg! Hugs from one mom to another! Transparency, wisdom, truth and on and on . . . . . You said it all so well. Other moms will be encouraged by your words! My girls are adults now raising their own children and I will be encouraging them to read this blog. (one of my daughters & I came to a craft weekend & loved it!) Blessings and grace to all moms!!!!!!!

Amy - All that you wrote are my thoughts exactly! I struggle with wishing I could go back to when they were little and parent differently. I struggle with trying not to be to demanding of them and knowing that they have to learn from natural consequences and that I cannot control or fix everything they do. I miss when they were little but this age is so awesome too. Parenting is HARD!

Ruth - Thank you Meg, for starting my week off this way! With 3 in the same stages as yours I very much relate, am grateful for your can do and say amen to every word! Much Love.

Jennifer - Really great post. Thanks for sharing and thanks for being honest. Wonderful words of wisdom and insight. I’m fast approaching the teenage years and this helps with perspective. You’re doing great! Can’t wait to see you next month!

Cindy - I have 2 teenage girls and this is just so good! Thank you for sharing with us.

Brady W. - Aaaaaannnnd….cue the knife to my heart. Your (should I say God’s??) timing couldn’t have been better with this post. I just had a yelling match with my 5 year old son last night that resulted in both of us in tears (pathetic, I know–who fights with a 5 year old?!?). As I was yelling at him, I was arguing in my head about whether or not that was the best way to handle it. “But if I don’t yell, he doesn’t listen or do what I say. I’ve explained it nicely 15 times!” “If I just stop yelling and hug him, will this fight be over?” “But if I hug him, is he going to understand that what he did is wrong?” It was a CONSTANT back and forth and I realized last night more than ever that all I did was frustrate myself and my son and make the devil dance with joy that he was winning. It’s SO hard to know the “right” way to parent. The sad part is it takes making so many mistakes to figure out what works the best–thank God for His grace and that my kids are so forgiving! I’ll be praying for you (and myself-ha!) to have wisdom and grace and forgiveness. Mommin’ ain’t easy! Hang in there!

Maureen - Yes! Parenting older teens is a whole new game! I, too, have parenting regrets and parenting wishes and “why didn’t I?” and the whole rush of emotions of having these boys-almost-men in my house. Feeling nostalgic many days and proud and afraid of what the future holds and excited all at the same time. Thank you for your post. Mothers unite!

Patty - Amen to that lady! My kids are 23 and 27. It is so cool to see them be the awesome, successful adults they are and enjoy them as such, but you still parent/give advice which they take into account and act on/don’t act on… When my daughter was in middle school I’d send her and her friends off with a “Make good choices girls!” (think Jamie Lee Curtis in Freaky Friday) It started as a joke, but when moments were right I’d follow up with a deeper conversation. “Life is made up of choices. We make them sometimes good, sometimes bad. Learn from your choices. I hope you make more good choices than bad. Most importantly, I just don’t want any bad choices to affect you, or someone else for the rest of your/their lives.”

Cara - this was an answer to prayer. thank you, thank you, thank you for being real, honest and vulnerable on the internet. God wanted me to read this today. i don’t know you but i am extremely grateful for your obedience in stepping out and sharing your heart on this matter. bless you and your sweet beautiful family!

Andrea - Thank you, thank you, thank you! I arrived home last night from a weekend away with several older christian moms and grandmothers but somehow felt more overwhelmed and discouraged than ever because I don’t have it all together like they do. Your honesty was the best encouragement ever!!!!!! The timing of your post was amazing and so God speaking through you!!! Sharing your heart has helped me more than ever! I am so glad you shared!!!

Trina - AAAAHHHH! This had me in full fledged ugly cry mode! I’m in the “toddler mom” stage of life and I feel so defeated a lot of days. I feel like I yell too much. That I’m not patient enough. That I expect too much. And while all of that is something I will struggle with on the daily (because I’m human), this post was soooo encouraging to me, because it reminded me of things I already know, but things I still desperately need to hear. Jesus covers my mistakes and His grace is what I need to lean on. Grace is also something I need to bestow upon my children…and honestly myself when I’m disappointed with the amount of times I’ve lost it with my kids that day. Thank you, thank you, thank you for posting something that is super poignant for me at this point in my life!

Gevay - I love this. This is a good word. It’s humble and honest and raw. Thanks for sharing your heart and your wisdom to those of us on the cusp of this.

Abby - I think I have been holding my breath for this post for a long time. thanku. I am a mama of 5 children also we are very slowly climbing out of the babyhood trenches (our youngest is 2 and our oldest 10). I have felt the need to shift away from anger and timeouts but not sure what to do. I have felt that there is a better way to discipline my older children. Thank u for shining a small light on the path I need.

se7en - Isn’t this post the truth!!! Love it… Parenting littles is exhausting in a completely different way than parenting teens, which is definitely not for sissies!!! I had this idea that they would grow up and sleep and become more and more capable and sleep(!)… and then kind of slide out of home… its nothing like that. Their needs are bigger and can’t always be fixed with a sleep… they do sleep, but not before two in the morning and if you want to stay close with them… then that’s when they chat!!! It is a giant rollercoaster of the best of times and the most trying times, all in a state of fatigue!!! Is it worth it? You had better believe it, they may not be the people I expected them to be, but I really like them, just as they are!!! Of course I am their mother so I love them completely… but I really like them. I want to hang out with them and spend evening playing games and catching up with them… the ultimate achievement is to get through all this growing up, for all of us and out the other side and still be liking each other totally!!!

Christy - Thanks. Your post was just what I needed to here this weekend. As a mom newly experiencing the “older kids” years I’ve been a bit overwhelmed lately by the same things. I find myself looking back with regret at decisions I made, responses I had, etc. hoping they know I meant only the best for them. That I love them so much it sometimes physically hurts. Instead I need to be looking forward and praying for more grace on both sides, more understanding and patience.. My girls are amazing and I often find myself tearing up over the idea that they will soon leave my house one minute, and just wishing for a moment of quiet the next. It is hard, and crazy, and an emotional roller coaster, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Prayers for all of us moms out there!

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hope spoken weekend

April 1, 2015 Filed in faith,me me me,pretty,things i love

well i am home from a really good weekend at Hope Spoken in Dallas.
i have been trying to write this post for three days but life is busy!
appointments and carpool and dinner and groceries and puppies and chickens and everything!
take me back to Dallas!!!

kimberlee and i drove down together and talked our heads off every. single. minute.
#duh

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when we got to dallas we ate at Lyfe Kitchen for lunch.
hummus on a salad? quinoa and cucumbers? avocado AND hot sauce?!
and i tried my first radish!
this salad was not only photo worthy but memorable.
i wish i could eat it every week!
over this meal kimberlee said “i always forget how good it feels to get away and do something out of the norm”
amen.
YAY for leaving the routine behind and having fun outside our everyday lives!

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the first place i went for the conference was the Speaker Dinner.
the other Hope Spoken speakers were there and i met them for the first time.
We met at Neighbor’s Table with Sarah hosting us in her back yard.
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the table setting was beautiful and made us each feel so special.
i loved hearing Sarah’s heart in what she does… how she serves.
she made me want to be more intentional about sharing and gathering!
it was a relaxing way to start the weekend.
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not hope spoken related but still weekend related:
we ate lunch on friday at the Rusty Taco.
OMJosh.
the #2 Roasted Pork Taco with cotija cheese and pickled red onions was something i can’t stop craving!
we tried to go back twice but it was closed on the weekends!
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Hope Spoken opened on friday night with Jen Hatmaker.
now… i knew she would be good.
but she blew me away.
i have read her books but i’ve never heard her speak… it was the best thing i have heard in possibly years!
she’s the real deal.
this is a terrible picture of her… but i wanted you to see the stage and the set up… SO lovely.
i don’t think it was recorded but if it was you have got to hear it!  i will keep you posted.

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these were my roommates.
i mean, they were ok i guess…
ha ha ha.
ashley, shannan and kimberlee are so nice to room with me.
they make me so happy.
i wish we all lived in the same state… in the same town…. on same block… with adjoining backyards where we can hang out every night!  🙂

 

this is my small group i got to be in.
i always feel anxious when joining a group of women… (will this feeling last forever?)
and as usual… the group was totally lovely full of sweet women with stories that matter & big hearts.
Crystal was our leader and i have been wanting to meet her in person for a long time.
our group even had a smiley baby mascot.

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i spoke on saturday morning.
i was a sweaty mess but i made it through!
and i did cry… but not out of control.
they did not record the break outs so literally “i guess you had to be there”
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(thanks for picture kimberlee)
i felt like i needed a nap when i was done!
but i am so glad i did it!!!
at 10:55 i tried to get the other break out speakers to go out for coffee with me.
(we spoke at 11:00)
ha ha ha
i shared about how Jesus wants us right where we are, no matter what we have done in our past.
there is no one “qualified” to be used by Him… none of us are and He uses us anyway!
i shared that it’s O K  and even good to DREAM with God & the setbacks we encounter when we do.
about how it’s really hard to see ourselves the way God does – we focus on our sins but God sees us clean.
and about how all the stories & events in our past are about God changing us for His good.

i also told them i was super worried that my spanx were showing since i was on the stage instead of the floor.

Stephanie (Honey) Holden spoke on sunday as our closer.
it just couldn’t have been better.
i had never met stephanie but i think she & i should have been friends forever.
she has the best accent!
i loved her stories, the way she read the bible and how she walked us through the verses.
and yes… i had been the crying just before this picture.
it’s not like i just walk around and burst into tears but when someone says something that touches my heart or hugs me when i need it or tells me good news (or sad news too)… the tears come.   it’s just me.  it started in seventh grade and i don’t think its stopping anytime soon.

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jeanne and i have been friends for a LONG time.  🙂
she’s super cool.  i always enjoy my time talking and laughing so much with her.
you should take her online art classes!
at the very least you should take part int the Becoming Class – it’s free and awesome!

we ate across the street by default at the Rodeo Goat.
it looks like a 4H building and i was very skeptical.
but like with most fun places… it looked weird but it was really GREAT!
i was wrong.
once i saw this wall… it was my new favorite place in the whole world.

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isn’t this a funny picture?!  we all had such a good time together!
i got to meet Paige for the first time after ‘knowing” each other online forever!
blogging rocks.
so many online friends are every where!  it’s so fun to meet in real life!
paige i loved our meals together.  🙂

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i follow Ruth on Instagram but we had never met until thursday.
she was F U N!  i loved her from the second we met!
(partly because she walked up and said “oh my gosh you are so beautiful!” or something like that)
if you don’t follow her you are missing out!  her shop is RAD too.
she has 6 boys! (with a body like that) (inside joke)

 

just now i went to the #hopespoken on IG and stole all these pictures!
i wish i had thought to take each of them… and about 100 more.

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the speakers each were given “gift bags” which was kinda dreamy.
better life bags… katygirl designs… persimmon prints… intentional home… lovishly… 25:40 Love… eclectic joy… the lovely words

i felt spoiled! thanks to all the sponsors and to the Hope Spoken crew!
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Danielle, Casey & Emily – THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

 

so dear readers… you should go to hope spoken next year.
be brave!
meet new people!
get away from the everyday routine!
have FUN!
worship together.. grow… hear… experience!

i had heard how good it was and i was still skeptical… and it was SO GOOD!!!
i am so glad i went!
tickets go on sale May 1 for Hope Spoken 2016.
🙂

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natalie - I hate to ask this here, but didn’t find the info on the hope spoken website. Does anyone know what the cost will be for 2016? Thanks!

Mindy - What a beautiful group of ladies. Good things happen when God gathers His people and open hearts are filled (and I am with you as far as the tears go…) to overflowing. Thanks for sharing! And what a lovely backdrop you all had – so sweet.

Lasso the Moon - I was so happy to meet you, Meg! I’ve been a reader for such a long time. You did great, and your talk was so inspiring. When you are in Dallas again, look me up! Let’s be friends!
Anna

Necole@seriouslysassymama - This makes me miss living in Dallas. Now we live in the burbs and it is jut too far to drive for all that yummy food!

Flower Patch Farmgirl - OMJosh. Hahaha
I’m on a mission to recreate that pickled onion taco… Fyi

Rebekah - I’m the same with the tears. There’s a Jewel song that that I think about sometimes that says, “I’m sensitive, and I’d like to stay that way.” That’s me. 🙂 Not in a bad way, just tender-hearted.

Tere - I so love you. Thanks for being you and always filling my heart with your amazing words….xoxo tere

Jen Dahl - i was looking at those tacos thinking, yeah, that looks pretty great. so I clicked on the locations, and wouldn’t you know there is one near me. guess what I’m having tomorrow night for dinner? YUM.

jessica - Thank you so much for mentioning us in this post! It seems like such a lovely time! We are working on going next year! Hope you enjoy your shirt!

Jenny - Sounds amazing! Can you share links to the shops for the swag you got? That shirt!

Lorraine - One of these years I’m going to get there!! It looks like such an incredible time of fun, fellowship and love!!

Karen - Can you still attend if you aren’t a blogger? 🙂

Kate @ Songs Kate Sang - Your black dress – wow! You looked stunning. I so wish I could have been there to hear you. I know it was amazing!

Eugenia from Southern California - Oh my goodness, you are all so beautiful. My job sucks so much out of me, it’s nice to be reminded that there is purpose. I pray and my co-workers pray to remove the darkness from our workplace. Sometimes, its the one claiming to love Christ that cause so much havoc and suffering. Reading your witness really helps and encourages me to press on. Thank you for reminding the rest of us to answer His call. To have Hope and to feel worthy.

xxxooo e

Jenny B. - So glad it went well! I knew you would do great. 🙂

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the good & the not-so-good-but-still-good

February 10, 2015 Filed in faith,me me me

how do you like that post title?!
eloquent is the word i think you are looking for…. ha ha ha

so much has been happening around here.
i bet the same is true for you.

thursday was lauren’s birthday.
she turned 20???  i can’t even wrap my brain around that quite yet.
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i went and spent the afternoon with her eating lunch and a little shopping before she had to get to practice.
i brought her a basket FULL of everything she would need to make our favorite chocolate chip cookies.
cookie sheets, hand mixer, oven mitt, measuring cups, teaspoons, rubber scraper, spatula,  ALL the ingredients and the recipe.
it was  such a fun gift to put together!

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we haven’t gotten to celebrate her as a family yet but that is what happens when you’re daughter is 20 and doesn’t live with you.  🙂  we are looking forward to birthday cake and time together soon.

friday was a home basketball game for scott… my favorite.

saturday… talby took the ACT to find out what that is like and she survived.
she’s only a 7th grader but she did it!
i was really proud of her and her smarty pants.
we ran errands all afternoon with the three youngest… including trying on sweatbands.
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then i got to run off with friends for a night of talking and mexican food!
is there anything better?
i NEEEEEEDED that.
i always realize so many things that haven’t been processed when i am with girlfriends.
things that i thought i had worked out but then when they are said OUT LOUD instead of in my brain… there is still a lot there that needs to be dealt with.
friends are so good at that stuff!

sunday… craig and i got to enjoy an overnight alone with no kids!
we had to go to oklahoma city for an iPhone issue that i had… needed a real Apple store.
(can i just say that Apple stores are the coolest places on earth!?!)
after that we went to dinner at Cheever’s.
we had been there before but this time i ordered this…  (these pictures are from yelp)
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Quinoa Avocado Salad.
mine had chicken on it…. and OH MY WORD… it was so good.
i want to eat it every day.
forever.

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spending time with just mr. duerksen…  is pretty much the best thing ever.
we worked on Craft House projects on monday.
and more importantly… we watched Comedians in Cars getting Coffee.
that show!
it’s so dry and so odd but i laughed a lot!   i just love Seinfeld.
oh and we watched jimmy fallon clips on youtube forever.  🙂

and now we are back to our  regularly scheduled programs of school & ball games & letting the dogs out & picking up kids from the gym & rescuing chickens who escape their coop.
all good things.
it’s just that overnight getaways are way more fun.

 

this past week i have wrestled a lot with fear and anxiety about speaking at Hope Spoken.  (in march)
it’s probably more about comparison or doubt that fear and anxiety.
i am not afraid to stand up in front of people… i don’t LOVE it but i don’t hate it either.

but i have been feeling overwhelmed to speak in front of a bunch of women.
wishing i could hide.  wishing i was invisible or never had a blog or no one ever knew who i was.
because you know how women do…. we compare.
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i see all these ladies who are speaking and think “what the heck am i in this group of women for?”
those ladies are spiritual and bible-y.    i am a mess.
those ladies look nice and neat and put together.    i am a mess.
these ladies have tv shows and big stories and great hair.   i am a mess.
i’ve cried.
it’s embarrassing….but it’s the truth.
and it’s probably very unprofessional that i share any of this since i am a speaker.
i know 100% i am not competing with anyone in the group so comparing myself is so stupid.
logically i KNOW the truth of Jesus that he uses the unqualified (well i am definitely that!) and the willing (i am even though i don’t sound like i am)

i did laugh at myself to think that He would ever let me stand in front of women and have no words.
Jesus would never let me waste an opportunity to share about him… not like that.

BUT… there is that other side… the enemy talking to me…nagging and nagging.
he fills my head with doubt and fear.
he says “who are you to share… you know what your kid said to you last week.  what kind of a mom are you?  why should anyone listen to you?”
or  “you read what that commenter said… or that website that hates you… or those people who talk about you… you heard it.  it must be true. people wouldn’t say it if it wasn’t true”
OR “you don’t even home school.  you don’t have bible time with your kids.  good moms do that.  and really… you barely make dinner.”

these, among many others, are thoughts that went through my mind this week.
for real.

i can talk right back and say “that’s dumb.  go away.  you suck.”
and i do.
but it’s been constant and that is exhausting.
the enemy will wear you down.
and he has been working on me for months with this.

sunday at church, right in the middle of the sermon our pastor said something like… “often we say ‘God i can’t do this.  This is too big’.  And we are right.  We CAN’T do it.  We have to let GOD do the big stuff through us.”
(i don’t know if that’s really what he said but that is what i heard.)
i kept my tears in but i knew that 10 seconds was for me.
i had to say again “God i can’t do this.  Please do it for me.  Through me.  I am willing.”

i still have no idea what He will have me say??
but he reminded me that He never leaves.
he reminded me that there are ALL KINDS of moms…  and that i am unique and He made me this way.
he reminded me that parenting teens & big kids is H A R D.  they have their own ideas, make big decisions, and don’t HAVE to choose what you think they should.  it feels messy and unknown because it is.  but it’s not bad… just messy.
He reminded me that HE loves me.  No matter if everyone else would hate me… HE loves me.  and that is all that matters.
and that all of this is about HIM not me!

So i guess it’s exciting.
it’s not fun… but it’s exciting to continue to watch this unfold in me.
i know that whatever i share at Hope Spoken is going to be exactly what God wants.
because my own ideas and in my own strength it would be “ummm… i don’t know … i have nothing to say”
and that would be a really long 45 minutes.
ha!

i can’t do this.  but He can.  through me.
and you can say the same thing today about whatever you are facing.
big or little.
“i can’t do this but Jesus YOU CAN through me.”

 

 

ok… i have to get some stuff done today.
and it may or may not include a trip to target!
by myself.
🙂

 

 

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Jennie - Meg – I can imagine with a blog like this and so many women who feel like they “know” you, that you would certainly at some point wish for some anonymity, or the ability to hide. But I just want to say a big “THANK YOU” for sharing part of your life with all of us! It’s so so refreshing to see a woman celebrating where God has gifted her and being so honest with places she struggles – all with great wit and sincerity. 🙂 A dear friend called me the other day crying as she was reading a mom blog. She felt so “less than” and like a mess. I told her to stop reading!! And then I told her to read your blog…I told her she would be so encouraged and would laugh along the way! So thank you for being real, funny, encouraging, and for sharing your creativity with all of us. Your blog has spurred on the creative side of me that’s so easy to ignore with the day to day tasks of being a mom. The women at that conference will be blessed by God through you!!

Mindy - Wish I were closer so I could attend and hear what God speaks through you. I know it will be great because you have met His requirement – willingness. I love the way you have shared what we all feel at times, even those other ladies on the speaking poster I am sure of. When we are weak He is strong in us, He is our confidence. You (and God in you) will be wonderful!

Deb Meyers - Good Loving on that firstborn 🙂

Valerie @Chateau A La Mode - Love you Meg and your heart! Praying for you! You will be amazing through Him!
xo

Flower Patch Farmgirl - You know how I feel about all of this. 🙂 Love that you shared it all here.

Lora - You’ll be great! I used to read A LOT of blogs but yours is the only one I still read. I’m a mess too so I guess that’s why I love your blog!

Kerry - I think you should say that!! Everything you just said here, say at the conference!

Heidi - “Be not afraid, only believe.” -Mark 5:36. It came from this talk: https://www.lds.org/church/news/antidote-for-fear-know-gospel-will-triumph-elder-holland-says?lang=eng.

“When you have a bad thought about yourself tell it to go to Hell, because that is exactly where it came from. – Brigham Young.”

Thank you for your honestly and being real. So many women look up to you and admire you. How lucky those people will be to hear you speak at the conference! You are going to rock it lady!! You are AMAZING!

Kim - Your message to the people at Hope Spoken should be exactly what you just blogged about! How to be an everyday, ordinary mom and not let the enemy wear you down!

Tanya H - I’m like “there are websites that HATE you??? Who hates you?!” and then I was laughing and crying because I am doing the same battle in my head, tho on a much less public scale…women… sigh.
But you know what? You have so many readers and followers because you’re NOT a mess. You get it. You’re real and you’ve been my favorite stranger-blogger for a number of years now. Thank you for being you and for having this blog and for helping me parent big kids becoming teenagers and freaking me out. 🙂 I’m a better mom because of your ideas. In the summers we make stuff I’ve seen on your blog because you had craft Thursdays! You will be amazing. You ARE amazing.

Tanya - Audience of ONE sweet Meg.
Faith is stepping out first – we know that – He never lets us fall. And over and over again the truth is…we are drawn to what is real and we are drawn to the story…not what is perfect. Big love 🙂 🙂 🙂

Jill - You know, what you said above, that is God speaking through you! Those words touch so many lives. You are serving God and you are still “real.” That’s all of us! If God didn’t work through broken people, then he wouldn’t work through any of us. It has taken me so long to know that God wants to use me too. I just have to surrender. I’m praying for you for this.
And, I can’t believe Lauren is 20!

Amy Woods - and, man, I sure wish it wasn’t sold out already! I would love to go!

karen - You are so sweet and honest, I love reading your blog! Blessings….. 🙂

Lauren - “you barely make dinner…” You made me laugh. You’re a gift, a messy, beautiful, blessed gift.

Amy Woods - All the women who will speak at Hope Spoken are awesome! But guess what? You’re my fave! It is your blog I check daily in hopes of updates. It is your instagram feed that I stalk because I enjoy your sense of humor and love of God, kids, hubbies, chickens and color! I like that you hate exercise but do it anyways. I hear the message the Lord puts through you, because it is YOU I relate to! So hold your head high chicky. And thank you for letting the Lord work through you!

Jenna - Meg, the reason I continue coming back to you and enjoying you so much is exactly because you are real life! My kids are little but you speak to the busy-ness and the just trying to do our best each day. I can relate to you and I truly appreciate that! I don’t thank you enough for that!!

Cindy Singer - I just wanted to know that you encourage me so much! My girls are 13 and 11 and it is hard and messy like you said…but oh so worth it. Thanks for your honesty and kindness through this blog. You’re helping me to get through!

lisa@hooplapalooza - whew what a week. so many difficult challenges…
you say “i can’t do this. but He can. through me.”
and guess what? you just did. for me.
thank you <3 XOXOXO

Tami - Hi Meg, I had to recently speak in my hometown and although I am on tv here in Atlanta and I speak all the time, it was something about speaking where I am originally from that had me go bananas! I guess because I knew it would be high school and college buddies there and family, I was a nervous wreck. I wrote a speech but it didnt seem authentic at all, so I tore that up and spoke from the heart and Lord and behold I got a standing ovation! I couldnt believe it and it was not a dry eye in the room! So that was all to say, let go and let God! You will be fine! Ive been a long time reader of your blog and I know you will do well! xoxo

Kelly - I hear you about fear and anxiety. I was in that place so much for a couple months and wishing I could somehow pray my way out of it with a snap of the fingers but He has been at work in His timing and I feel so much peace now. I know that is not necessarily specific and helpful but HE IS GOOD. Kelly

Michelle from Australia - Meg, you might be a self proclaimed ‘mess’. BUT, I’ve never heard of any of the other folk and I’m a Meg fan. So ‘mess’ and all, if I wasn’t living half a planet away, I’d be hanging off your every word 🙂 You can do this. And you will rock it!

katie - i think you’re great! ….always have.

this messy mom is lifting you up in prayer.

xo

Melanie - Your comment section is so encouraging… just print it out and bring it in your pocket! You’ll do great. I wish we could all hear what you share at that conference. But what I’d really like you to share is the source of the You Are So Loved tea towel!! It’s awesome. And I would love for my kids to have that message hanging in their dorm room some day. 🙂 The power of words. Love it!!

Andrea - Meg, I’m such a fan! I’ve been to the craft house twice with private groups and love to follow your words and thoughts. Why is the negative always louder than the positive? I hope you know that you inspire so many spiritually and creatively! Keep up the good fight and let God strengthen you and your resolve!

Meredith - The very last person I need to hear from at a women’s retreat is a woman who has it all together. I would leave in tears of discouragement and isolation. If I wanted that, I’d look to my instagram feed. We need other women to meet us in our messy trenches and offer to walk beside us and share war stories. I would rather stick pins in my eyes than listen to another mother telling me stories of her children enjoying bible devotions every night over home-cooked organic meals. Share with me your mess and how you’re struggling through regardless and looking to Jesus to bring beauty from the broken places. That’s inspiring. It’s also what you do so beautifully here:) xo

Kate @ Songs Kate Sang - Hi sweet Megan. Once upon a time, I found a blog. In that blog I found a girl who loved Jesus, liked pretty things, and didn’t have it all together.

You know what? I really like that girl. She speaks to me more often than not. Well, He speaks to me through her.

I’ll be praying for you. I so wish I was going to be there so that I could smile at you from the front row.

Sara W - A speaker at the IF Gathering this weekend said, Faith doesn’t erase our fears – it overcomes them! Hoping that you can believe that your faith will overcome your fear!

Cheryl Jaeger - I love what your minister said…and/or what you heard…“often we say ‘God I can’t do this. This is too big’. And we are right. We CAN’T do it. We have to let GOD do the big stuff through us.” Make all that negative noise be quiet and just listen to your heart. You will do great!

Jenni - No ONE wants to hear a speaker that seems to ‘have it all together’, we all know its not true. Just reading this post feels like a good place to start on what you’ll share….how to believe truth when you feel attacked. Sharing a few stories about how that has looked in different seasons of your life. EVERYONE can relate to that. Share your heart, let Jesus do the work in the lives of your listeners. That. IS. Hope. Spoken. Blessings Meg!

Jenna - You rock! I wish I could go to Hope Spoken to hear you talk – I am sure it will be great! I truly look up to you and hope one day I can parent half as good as you do. Sure, I don’t see all the behind-the-scenes, day-to-day life, but I love how honest and real you are. Thank you for also sharing that with God in us, we can do anything!

Alison - thank you for putting into words exactly how I have been feeling but didn’t realize I was actually feeling. Does that make sense? You are amazing! You got this!

Lisa - Meg I’m going to hope spoken just because your there. If you were on stage and just sewed I’d be thrilled. Seriously! Plus I promise I’m not a stalker. I just love your creativity. You are unique and I just love your uniqueness.

Nikki - Um, the reason I love your blog is because you are not all spiritual and bible-y. You LIVE your faith, down here in the messiness of real life. That is SO inspiring and, to me, way more interesting. You will be great.

Jenny B. - Meg, I am sure you are right and God will give you just the right words to share at Hope Spoken. And even after you say them all, you might feel like they were not all that great, but someone (or likely lots of someones) will feel like it was exactly what she needed to hear. Also, when I think about you, I think YOU are spiritual and bible-y. YOU look nice and neat and put together (because I love your glasses and your colorful eclectic-yet-attainable-at-Target fashion sense). And you may not have a TV show, but I think YOU have great hair! 🙂

Hannah - i would pick you FIRST out of any of those women…because you are so REAL and i don’t feel alone when you are honest!! your blog is awesome and i love your life/family stories! YOU WILL BE AMAZING! i only wish i could be there to hear! YAY FOR YOU!!!!!

Kobi - Thank you so much for those words of courage in the face of fear. You spoke right to my heart today.

Corinne - I think you’re great!

Stephanie - Meg, you are so honest and real. Many others would shy away from telling the world how they are really feeling and the fears that they have about doing big tasks for the Lord. The enemy is going to attack you because he is afraid and he knows that you are going to do amazing things for Christ & are going to glorify His name. Those are flat out lies, keep reminding yourself that. And you are right, God does use the unqualified or the seemingly ordinary but that is because He will be glorified. This so reminded me of Esther 4:14 “For if you keep silent at this time, relief and deliverance will rise for the Jews from another place, but you and your father’s house will perish. And who knows whether you have not come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” God used Esther who was unqualified and ordinary to do this huge amazing thing and He will do the same for you. Thank you for sharing your heart and I will be praying for you as you prepare for Hope Spoken

Laura h - Just remember this little expression
“Comparison is the thief of joy”

patty - You can do it. YOU ARE AWESOME!

Analene - Awe… sweet friend.
I won’t be there but if I were, I would so appreciate the Holy Spirit’s whispers to my heart through you. A real person. A real woman. A real wife and mama. Just a girl who loves Jesus.

His truths are always best displayed from the unlikely places – that’s what makes HIM so wonderful! I’m excited for you, and for those privileged to participate with you in this adventure.
Wish I could be there too.

Hugs from me~
just another girl.

chrissi - you make me laugh. you a mess? i think i am a mess when i read your blog. i guess it is all relative. you inspire me so much. i love your energy. your love of the Lord. the fierce love you have for your family. i would be over the moon to listen to you talk at hope spoken. you so have this one♥

Abby H - Thank you Meg! I needed to hear this today so much! You are a blessing to many 🙂

Amy - You know what? I am messy too, and I need to hear you to realize it’s ok and we’re doing our best. Keep your head up! You can do this! 🙂

Tere - 1. Happy Birthday Lauren. Crazy. 20! My bigs are only 16, and I don’t look 1/2 as hot as you 😉
2. Oh, Meg. Hope-Spoken. You will be amazing! You hear me, AMAZING! You have everything you need. Just show-up as you. That is who we love. That is who He loves. You can do this. Be brave.
xoxo, tere

Sharon - great read. thanks! we women just can’t ‘turn it off’ in our heads. always thinking, we are! an all-time favorite quote on comparing, to ponder — “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Theodore Roosevelt theprincipledtypeblogspot.com

hope - not good, but SOOOO good. you’re right

oh man, our sunday sermon was about ‘addressing the issue of accusing thoughts’ (from satan essentially). it was super duper good. I’ll pass along once edited and uploaded. STAY TUNED

[ps GREAT post, thanks for sharing, hit home for me today]

Ellen R - Oh, and have you been to the Paseo in OKC? It’s just north of Cheever’s. Paseo is OKC’s art district. Based solely on the internets, I feel like you would LOVE it 🙂 And the Mesta Park and Heritage Hills neighborhoods right there are BEAUTIFUL!! Old houses with lots of character!

Gina - Meg, I am glad you shared how the enemy has been hammering you with doubt. Every Christian, male and female can relate to this. We need to share it with each other so we can lift each other up in prayer and so we don’t think we are the only ones!! When Jesus was in the wilderness and satan was speaking lies to Him, Jesus didn’t argue with the devil He presented the Truth – God’s Word!! Maybe you can find a few verses that speak Truth to the lies and memorize them. Like, “Greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world” and “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” 🙂 Another one that just popped into my mind is, “He who began a good work in you is faithful to complete it.” You (through Christ) can do it!! 🙂 Now, go forth and conquer!!

Ellen R - We LOVE Cheever’s!! It’s our “big” date place! My husband gets the chicken fried steak and I get the lobster mac and cheese!! Neither healthy, but YUM!! If you’re in that area again you should try Big Truck Tacos…it’s just down the street from Cheever’s and it is the BEST!! My fave local OKC spot!! Very fresh and unique…good healthy (and not healthy) options!!

Ann - I love your blog, decorating style, and your thoughts you share. Isn’t it interesting that we all feel that way at times? You are right on about the source of where those thoughts come from. I think of all the people that rely on us & how much we try to serve those around us & yet we are so aware of our shortcomings. It’s something I struggle with all the time. I always appreciate the way you remind us of God’s love.

s - I have never been to a conference, but if I did go, you are the exact person I would want to hear because you seem soo real. Aren’t most of us a hot mess? I like to think I am not alone in this, but just one of many making many mistakes but trying our best!

Be confident- you will be amazing, you really will. You can always go listen to Shake It Off until you really do shake it off…

Jenn - Oh my gosh! I’m so with you. The doubt and the frustration. Thinking you aren’t good enough and don’t do enough and that you yell at your kids. I know God picked me to be a mom to my girls because he knew I could do it and would be the best mom for the job. That I would show them how to be the best they can be and to have faith and to turn to God when they need help. But the doubt and the frustration sets in and you start to think why, how am I suppose to do this? You hit the nail on the head….because He wants us to ask Him for help and to let Him take over. I love that He lets me start over and He shows me that keeping the faith will prevail and He will prevail in me and lead me to the life he wants for me. He’s good, very good. Thank you for sharing…you are so awesome and brave. They will love you just like we do!

Christin - Thank you for your honesty and encouragement. I needed to hear this today!

jaime - you got this mama. cause He’s got you!
the enemy only attacks hard & relentlessly because you are an obedient daughter who is advancing the Kingdom of Chirst … if you weren’t loving & serving Jesus why would he mess with you? #fistbump love ya.

Rachel - Meg, you are wonderful. And real. And people WILL relate to that. You are no messier than the next gal. And out of all the ladies on the list, YOU would be the one I would most want to hear from. I know other women feel this way too! That dirty rotten devil is a horrible jerk. Your story matters:) God will definitely bring you thru this! You got this girl! 🙂

kassondra - Reminds me of that Toby mac song steal my show.

SoCalLynn - I would love to attend a women’s conference where you are speaking! I have had to do some hard things over the last couple of years, things I never thought I would be able to do, but God was with me and gave me the right words and His strength every time, and I know He will do the same for you. You will be speaking to women who already know and love you and are for you!

beth - I love you Meg, I love you for being honest and real and Amazing!

Kristin S - You’re a mess? I’m a mess. You are who I want to hear from at a women’s getaway. Someone real who admits she doesn’t have it all together (because nobody does) and is at the mercy and grace of God for every minute of every day.

Knowing you are not alone and we are all on a journey is so freeing.

Wish I could go to the conference.

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2014 in photos

January 2, 2015 Filed in faith,family fun,photography,random,things i love,Uncategorized

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what a fun way to remember!

i was going through Instagram and Facebook, seeing so many posts on what they learned this year.
and their word for the year.
i felt blank.
i thought… did i learn ANY thing?
my brain was feeling like mush from the holiday crazy schedule.

then i looked through these photos.
i see love.
and being loved.
color.
life.
dreams.
strength.
JOY.
courage.
creativity.
focus.
change.
FUN.

this year i found out how to love my kids deeper than i ever have.
this parenthood stuff is HARD and crazy amazing all at once.
it’s no joke.
and i am so proud to be their mom even when things get hard.
I’m happy to walk through life beside them too.

this year i realized i had dreams in my heart i hadn’t validated.
after a little working through what that means… 2015 is the year to make them happen.
i feel like jesus is saying “enough stalling Meg!”

what i reflect on again and again is that through it all God is so good!!
that doesn’t mean everything is perfect.
it’s not.
life is messy.  (sometimes a complete disaster!)
everyone has struggles.
no one is alone in that.
but God’s Grace covers all of it.
He takes our offering of brokenness, weakness and failure and FLIPS it upside down.
He says “i love you. You are mine. You are new.”
we are not our mistakes.
we are not our past.
we are not what people think of us.
we are made new through Him.
God is good.  He gives me HOPE.  He carries me through.

bring on 2015.
i am ready.

(i think… maybe just a quick nap first)

 

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Kellyn - just thank you. Thanks for being you!! that is all 😉
have a blessed craft weekend!

Lori - I never get tired of your beautiful photos!

Courtney - Those photos are soo great! It was the motivation I needed! I have to print mine out and take more in 2015! Time just slips by way too fast. Great documentation of your year! Congrats!

annette - great post – i think taking pictures really helps us remember where we have been… wondering where you got your ‘Jesus loves me’ t-shirt?

Sue Linse - Love the pictures Megan! (does anyone call you ‘Megan’ anymore?…or is it just Meg. Anyway – only comment – love any picture of Stanley – SO cute. And Annie is freaking Adorable – should be modeling for GAP or something. Miss you as always 🙂

jennibell - Wow. What a beautiful, reflective post. You are inspirational to so many Meg!!!

Kate @ Songs Kate Sang - So many beautiful smiles! And I can’t wait to watch your dreams unfold!

Melissa - Amen! Here’s to 2015

Carol S. - I like your photos and perspective. You’re one of my favorite bloggers…real…colorful…most important, faithful. My blogging schedule has been reduced to one a year, lol. I don’t know how you do it, but sure am glad you do. Jealous of all your adorable pics with hubby. My husband ducks when camera comes out!

Kimberlee Jost - I loved all of the pictures!

amy jupin - i share so many of these same thoughts and emotions, especially in the message i keep hearing from jesus.
“don’t be afraid. stretch, grow, follow your passions!”
i push it down again and again.
what does it possibly mean?
what if i blow it?
we need to follow his lead and fight for our dreams!
they are important. so, so important!
i am with you, friend.
i am for you too.
happy new year meg!

Tammy - Happy New Year! Thanks for always being such an inspiration Meg!

Amy - Cheers to 2015! I’ve loved following along with you here and on Instagram. Thanks for sharing your life with us!

Lisa - Well said! Here’s to 2015!

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thursday morning thoughts.

December 11, 2014 Filed in faith

i have been quiet… unintentionally.
just doing the mom thing over here.
staying in pajamas far too late everyday, decorating, christmas shopping, going to programs, ball games, getting groceries, etc.

this post may sound a little Stauart Smalley to you but some days it just has to be said.
Stuart or not.

i just wanted to tell you – in case you forgot for whatever reason today –

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YOUR STORY MATTERS.

it does.
(i want to grab you by the shoulders and make you look into my teary eyes)

it does.  it does.  it does.

we all have our own.
we are ALL living different stories and we are ALL at different places.
none of us have got it all together.
none of us are THERE.
none of us have arrived.
if you think you are the only one – YOU ARE WRONG.

we are all messing up… messed up… broken people trying to get through a day without causing too much damage.

your story is your life.
and your story is important.
it’s important to you.  to your friends.  to your neighbors.  to your family.
Telling your story matters…. LIVING it out!  don’t hide your true self from your people.
They need you.

God knows all the details.
He knows how hard you are trying.
He knows how much you may be struggling.
He is right there with you.
You are never alone.
He makes you strong.

What if you don’t like the story you’re living?
pick something to change and make your story better!  It’s yours!
it won’t change everything but it will be a start.

what if you didn’t choose it for yourself but it’s happening to you anyway?
what if you feel broken and stuck?
what if you are exhausted in your story?

that is where the HOPE comes in.
hope is trusting that God has a plan that is bigger than the “right now”.
because your right now might be really tough – or boring – or sad.
what if this hard stuff is just a plot twist? the place where things get intense in the story?
and what comes out of that twist is something better than you could have dreamt up?
God has a plan that is good and loving (not easy).
we can trust in that hope to say “God i know you see me here and i know you love me.”

All of us have had days where we feel like losers.
or weeks.
or months.
but i KNOW that YOU are not a loser.
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i know it for sure!
You were made to SHINE and you just need to get out and do it.
pick one thing to be shiny today.
smile.
be kind to someone.
make that phone call.
write that letter.
give a hug.
get out of bed.
go for a walk.
start a journal.
read something uplifting.
sing loud in your car.
give something – your time, your heart, your money, your words

YOUR STORY MATTERS.
it all intertwines… your hope, your love, your strength, your story.

isaiah

 

 

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Weekend Cheer-Ups - […] I know I need ^^ this, and you might, […]

Angie - Thank you.

XOXO

Jen - I have read your blog for awhile now, and with this post, I feel you were speaking directly to me. I’m a working mom of three little boys who is constantly struggling to keep it all together. I often feel like a failure. I want nothing more than to stay home and raise my babies, but that just isn’t in the cards for me. I feel like a failure as a wife, as a mom, as a person. But reading this today gave me just what i needed. Thank you for ministering through your blog. You are appreciated more than you know by a stranger. God bless you and your family. Thank you for your sweet words.

Sara - Meg, Thanks for your faithfulness to write this. Tears streaming down my cheeks. Overwhelmed in my story with the burden/privilege/weight of having eternal influence. Does that make sense? I’m exhausted. But HE is not.

Erin - Where did you get your “Your story matters” t-shirt…love it….

Louisa - Thank you. I SO needed this today. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Lori - I needed to hear this….thank you.

Tammy - Tears are flowing down my face….going through a difficult time in my life.
SO needed to hear these words tonight. Thank you Meg for taking the time to write this strong and heartfelt message. I know that our loving Father will carry me when I fall, but your post really hit home tonight and I am grateful for it.

Rachel - I really needed this today! It really touched my heart and helped me just let some things go! By the way, where did you get your scarf? I think I NEED it!

Jenn @ EngineerMommy - Love this post. Full of inspirational, thought-provoking ideas!

Carol S. - I first read you were getting “gorgeous” not groceries, lol. I liked that! This sweet post is so much better than one more Christmas decoration perfection post, but I like those too. I’m sharing this with a friend who is sick and down. Thank you Meg for this thoughtful post. I love your kind heart.

Linda - Wonderful post. You always make me stop and think. I love the shirt. Where did you get it?- linda

Ann - I know you are right. But I just don’t feel it. And I am so tired.

Kimberly Dial - Thank you Meg. That was beautiful. Merry Christmas!

karen - Wow, thanks Meg, went straight to my heart, really needed it today….

Barbara (WA) - It is SO hard to believe this is true. Is it?

Diane - Wow. So needed to read your post this morning! THANK YOU!!! Felt like it was written just for me. 🙂 YOU are such and INSPIRATION!!!

Merry Christmas to you and your family! I hope you have a wonderful and blessed holiday season!!

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Kristen K. - Meg…thank you. Thank you for this ‘early’ Christmas present to my soul. 😉 I am sharing it with my 4 kiddos, too, because you so beautifully wrote what I struggle to tell them – and myself! I am so easily caught up in the tiny details of every day, hyper-focused on myself and my junk…and I forget to see myself and life from God’s perspective. His love is enough! And it doesn’t mean life is perfect..some days, the grace given is just barely enough to move forward…but it’s enough. Next week marks the 5th ‘anniversary’ of my beloved mom’s sudden death, and I’m still devastated somewhere deep down. So many days, I just NEED my mom. You know? So today, I will let the tears flow when they must, and I will purpose to praise God – who carries me and loves me – through it all. So thankful for you, and for your heart! xo

heather m. - Thank YOU : ) ♥!
This is something we all need to hear- myself included. Thanks for sharing what God put on your heart- i didn’t know how much I needed to hear it. You have such a gift and I’m thankful for you and your wonderful blog! And “Be shiny today” shall be my new motto! LOL! Happy Friday Meg!

Karen - thanks!

jo guy - thankyou, needed to hear that today. xx

Ashley from Tennessee - AAAmmmmmen Sistah! Love that verse and have since high school.
We need a holiday home tour. It’s so fun decorating a new home for Christmas.
Hope you and your family are enjoying it!!!

Mignon Jones - Please share where you got that awesome shirt!

Jeanie - Thank you Meg. I really needed to hear this today.

Lesley - Beautiful message, impeccably timed. Bless you Meg. xox

Andrea - Meg, thank you. You are so right…..It was good to read this today….. I wish I would have made the choice to be a stay at home mom despite the different lifestyle we would have had, but I will continue to make each day count with my children and let them know that despite working outside our home they are the most important thing to me….thank you….our stories are all important.

Kristin S - Thank you, Meg.

michele m fry - Loved this and love your heart!! Need this t-shirt, I am a therapist and I tell people all day long how much their story matters, would love to wear to work as a reminder too :]

Valerie - Oh Meg, your words are amazing! They speak straight to my heart. Thank you for sharing them. Have a blessed day xx

Victoria - Thanks! Needed these words today.

Bobbie - wow that was just what the doctor ordered. Rather I believe it was ordered by God. Thx

Kathi - Thank you.

Kara Byrne - Here’s my day… mommy mistakes and all…in a blogpost…
https://byrnenlove.wordpress.com/2014/12/11/pray-for-him/

I promise it’s not spam. : )

Michelle Deckert Richmond - Thanks Meg….I did feel like I was the only one who doesn’t have it all together….thanks for keeping it real. And thanks for sharing “your story”….great post…a lot to think about. Michelle from Canada

Lisa - You just communicated this so well! As I sit here praying off and on for a young couple at our church who are working so hard, doing everything they should and nothing seems to go their way. And yet they are still trusting Jesus to provide financially. And they continue to give. And they just had a 2nd baby and are so thankful. But the struggles can be so real. I want them to read this because I know it’s so hard on them right now. And I’ve been there when life seems too much but now being on the other side, I can see the strength and growth that happened during that hard time. And am so thankful for it now. Thanks for sharing your heart. Praying it touches those who need it badly right now!

marnie - There isn’t a person you wouldn’t love…if you could read their story.

I read that often and it’s true.

Jenna - Wow, just wow. All of this. I needed to hear and be reminded of. Crying the ugly cry in my office right now. Thank you for posting this today.

Kathy - You’re good enough.
You’re smart enough.
And doggoneit people like you!

Lisa - Thanks for writing this and sharing yourself so openly on your blog.

Stevie - This = awesome and true. Thank you for sharing your story with us!

Vicki - And now I am weeping. Thanks for sharing this. Very timely for me.

Michelle - Amen! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and the passage from Isaiah!

Rebekah Lyon - Loved this! Thank you. And (in the best possible way), right back ‘atcha!

Skye - Thank you!

Kate @ Songs Kate Sang - Love you. So much awesome truth here.

Linda - thanks you for sharing this. I really needed to hear it.

carissa fox - I love you.
your heart.
and I love that you share.
thank you friend for shining yOur light!
when I crank up the music in my car today… singing lOud…
shaking off my doubts & faults… I’ll do it extra loud… and think of you.
thank you!

Jessica - Such a beautiful post! Thank you so much! It’s is just what I needed to hear today

Sarah - After feeling defeated and crying the entire way to drop my boys off at school today, then trudging into my office and letting the tears continue, I needed this. I needed to know I’m not alone, things aren’t as bad as they may have seemed this morning, and they WILL get better, I can do something to make that happen. Thank you Meg. The tears are back, but they’re tears of hope this time, not tears of sadness and pain.

Mickie - Somehow you knew this was just what I needed today. This was a morning where we ended up yelling at our son (because he wouldn’t get ready) and he ended up crying and “wishing he had a nicer family!” Sigh… It’s the most wonderful time of the year but can also be the busiest and most stressful. Thanks for the reminder that we can get back up after these moments and be forgiven.

Jennifer - AMEN!!!! I needed to hear this. You are awesome and great too! Thank you, Meg…thank you!

Jan - Thank You, Meg, for sharing this today…it was just what my heart needed! Beautifully said. Waiting on the Lord teaches me so much about myself while trusting in his plan. “You take joy and suffering and make it an offering for Your glory.” Listening to the words of this song iver and over!

Cindy - holy cow that was powerful! thanks so much for your encouraging and lovely words! they were moving!

Kara Byrne - Yep, yep, yep. Needed this today so much. Took the day off because my stress level of being supermom while working PT and husband working overnights has gotten to me. I need to hear the holy silence of the season…without the nagging requests drowning it. Thank you for writing what was on your heart as there are many of us out here that need to hear it. Merriest Christmas wishes to you!!!

Kelley - Thank you! I needed this today!! Getting to be a stay at home mom while my husband works his tail off to support us. Yet we are struggling to make ends meet and I am feeling so guilty for not working outside of the home. Was praying this morning about ways to bring in some income. Thankful for the reminder of hope and trust in our Lord and Savior. And the reminder to start doing something! Thank you! I admire you as a mom and wife and sister in Christ. I know you don’t have it all figured out, but it’s so nice to have a real role model who’s a few years ahead of me in this parenting game. Thank you.

Jack - I think I needed to hear this today! Thank you Meg.

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my super fabulous weekend & a giveaway.

May 6, 2014 Filed in awesome bloggers,faith,me me me,things i love

i spent the weekend talking my head off with Shannan.
i sure do like that girl.
she is the real dealio.
(if you haven’t watched this video on her blog you need to do it right now!)

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we were trying to get a selfie on her first smart phone… it was pretty hilarious.
i wish we had video of that!

we tried to thrift shop.
stupid Siri screwed it all up for us.
she took us to closed down businesses THREE times in a row.
we felt defeated.
and i got car sick.
so we settled for TJMaxx, Homegoods & Marshalls.

photo-55photo-56check out these huge baskets?!  i was trying to show how big they are.
the left is from HG and the two right are TJM.
and the galvanized one was too fun to leave there.
i plan on using them for blankets and pillows… because my kids love to sit down on the couch and throw the pillows on the floor.
and when they stand up they just drop the blanket on the floor.
maybe it will help if there is a PLACE for these things?
i know, i know… get real right?!  at least they will be pretty when they are being properly used…by me.
i also got that running skirt. (TJM)

the whale bag is going to be the pool bag this summer. (TJM)
i could NOT believe that swimsuit fit me… i was thrilled.  and shocked.
swimsuit shopping is almost always an all day affair.
but you know how you KNOW your own body?  i saw that suit and thought… that is my kind of suit.
and it was.  (TJM)
and that rug?!! thank you for finding it for me shannan.   (HG)
AND Justin’s pb for super cheap.   i very much like that.    (HG)
photo 1during our time together we talked and talked and talked.
we ate at the same restaurant both nights because “why re-invent the wheel?”
and i even got the exact same meal.
i needed a brief get away from my little world.
and it was absolutely wonderful.

on my way home i listened to an audio book.
Love Does: Discover a Secretly Incredible Life in an Ordinary World
YOU GUYS… i love love LOVED it.
seriously.photo 3i loved the book  A Million Miles in a Thousand Years
i was told Bob Goff is a character that is one of my FAVORITE parts of Donald Miller’s book.
at that point i was officially ALL IN.
i listened and smiled and teared up (happy tears) all the way home.
i enjoyed the way he describes the Jesus he knows.
and how we can find him too.
it’s not a churchy book.
it’s a Jesus book.

i am slow to catch on but each chapter starts with the phrase “i used to think _______ but now i know ______”
i think i finally noticed on chapter 18.
ha.
some of my favorites were:

“i used to think words spoken about us describe who we are, but now i know they shape who we are”

“i used to think you had to be special for God to use you, but now i know you simply need to say yes”

“i used to think i could shape the circumstances around me, but now i know Jesus uses circumstances to shape me”

“i used to think God was good some of the time, now i know He’s good all of the time”

this book really made me think about how do i love people  (pretty poorly sometimes)
about what kind of life do i want to live?   (adventure over boring? yes please!)
what kind of story am i living?
what does Jesus wants me to be DO-ing?
and remember again how much HE loves me.

Bob Goff… i love you.

afterlight-5this was my view the last hour of my drive.
no words needed.

guess what?!
i bought the book intending to read it… but then realized i could listen to it on my drive so i bought it again on Audible.com.
so…. i have a copy of the book and i want to GIVE IT AWAY to one of you.
🙂

in the comments tell me something you used to think but now you know differently.
it can be about God… life… parenting… ndship
maybe a little challenging but i can’t wait to read your responses!

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debbie - I used to think people my age were OLD, but now I know that I may be older, but I am more young-at-heart than I was back then!!

Laura R. - I used to think that good parenting could solve any behavioral issue, now I know that trauma can cause pain that only time, love and the Lord can heal.

Sandy - I used to think I wasn’t smart enough to do hard things.
I now know it is smart to face hard things head on!!

Dana Heaton - I used to think homeschooling families were crazy! But I now homeschool and love it!…. I also used to think that I only wanted one child I now have four and want more! God is good! His plan is best!

Ashley - I used to think that I knew how parents should handle their children until I had my own!! 😉

The lovely one - I used to think I knew what love was, now I know what true love is when I look into the eyes of my babies.

Amber - I used to think not all my gifts could be used for God, but now I know all my gifts were put in me to glorify Him… even the crafty ones!

Southern Gal - I borrowed this book from the library and read it last fall. I loved it, too.

I used to think I had to have it all together all the time, but now I know God loves me no matter what.

Whitney R - I used to think I had to be a better person for God to
use me. But now I think he uses us just as we are, broken, hurt etc.

Abby - I used to think that nonbelievers just didn’t know God. Period. I’ve found that they may know lots about Him, but are just so broken that they can’t cling to anything as TRUTH anymore. But God is bigger, amen?

Kim Z. - I used to think I was too busy and never had any time, but now I know (after having kids) how busy and hectic life really is! A good busy!

Wow! That was so fun to think about what to put in that phrase…I’ve even thought of more! 🙂

Lisa - I used to think God was always angry with me but now I know how deeply he loves me despite all my junk. Glad you had a wknd away. I’m leaving next week to spend 2 days with my sister at a Beth Moore conference. Coming at the perfect time!

Gill - I love this blog and as an atheist I usually just gloss over all the Jesus/god/faith references and I concentrate on the beautiful photos but this post and more so the comments have left me completely alienated. More than that the unified voice of the commenters and the fundamentalist tone makes me anxious and kind of angry. I’m out.

Jennifer - I used to think that it was so important to have my house perfectly clean all the time. Now, I think it’s more important to have a house where we and our guests are comfortable!

Becky Kindel - I used to think that work came first…now I know that family does.

Hannah P - I used to think I could never impact someone’s idea of religion, because I only know “the basics.” So in theological discussions, I keep quiet. Turns out, I was relying on my own knowledge, thinking I was incapable of making a difference, when in reality, I just had to trust that God would give me the right words (which he did!)

Ellen - I used to think I had to be in control of so many things… then I realized that if I release control to God amazing things happen, especially with my kids <3

Valerie Minnich - I used to think that I needed to have grand ambitions & aspirations in order to be “successful”, now I know that what I need to do is my best in each moment as God grants it to me in the place I am now. <3

nancy - I used to think I didn’t matter, that I was not an important person to anyone. Now I know I matter to alot of people, my whole family makes me feel like I matter and that I am important to them.

Ali - I use to think moving sounded exciting but, now I KNOW its a lot of hardwork and exhausting (but, worth it) !!!

robin - I used to think there was really nothing my x-husband could do to make amends for the past, however I was wrong. He has done acts of kindness for me recently and God gave me this word “recompense”. Praise God for healing hearts.

Nancy H - I used to think I was weak and incapable, but after having my husband just walk out and leave our little family to be with another woman, I know that I am so strong.

Vicki - I used to think idle talk (aka, gossip) had its moments of fun. Now I know it hurts everyone, both the gossiper and the gossiped-about.

beth - I used to think I had to try to be perfect, now I know (still learning sometimes) it’s OK to not be and perfection is only Jesus!

grace - i used to think brussel sprouts were gross, but now i can’t have enough of them!! (i eat some every day these days…)

Tanya - I used to think hard roads meant that I was doing something wrong. Now I know that the hard is for the shaping and the growing and the story that will bring glory to the author of it all.

*P.S. I don’t want the book because I have it already and have already passed it on because IT’S THAT GOOD.*

Amber - As a teacher, I used to “know” what it was like to be them. Then, one of “them” stayed with us and told me his family dried off with the shirts they wore and blankets they slept with.

I’ll never “know.”

P.S. Came over from FPFG because she said I needed to add this book to my waiting Amazon cart!

Rita - I used to think that bad things only happened to other people. I now know that anything can happen to anyone, and it’s how much I lean on The Lord during those tough times that’s going to get me through. I’m leaning pretty hard right now.

Mandy - I used to think that raising kids would be simple. All it would take is snuggling, discipline and reading 1400 parenting books so that I would know it all. Now I realize (almost 5 years and 3 boys in) that all it takes is Jesus. Every minute of every day. Thankful for Lamentations 3:22-24

Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed,
for his compassions never fail.
They are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion;
therefore I will wait for him.

Melissa - I used to think I knew the RIGHT way to parent, but know I know that great parenting looks different every day.

Sarah - I used to think…but now I don’t.

Jen Smith - i used to think i’d be young forever but now i know that growing old isn’t so bad and it certainly beats the alternative.

Beth Davis - I used to think I understood death but after losing my dad. I know that I don’t need to because God”s got it his.

tara - I used to think I had to be good enough to be loved.
I’m learning that I can be loved the way that I am.

pam - I used to think it might be easier to not love someone than to love them and walk through suffering, messiness and hurt. But now I realize the blessing of loving far outweighs the suffering and loss.

I loved that book. I read it on the plane home from South Africa last year.
🙂

Lelia - I used to think I knew a lot, now I know that I have a lot to learn!

Laura - I used to think that it was about how good I could be or feel or act or speak. Now I know it is all about Him – all He does shows His character and how He feels about me. We are loved.

Jeannine Spivak - I used to think I chose Christ…now I know He chose me, in spite of me! I’m still trying to get my head around such Grace.

K - I used to think God answered prayers in direct ways…clear ways. Now I know that we sometimes have to LOOK for the answers and we will always find them. 🙂 Thank you for offering this giveaway!

Jennifer C. - I used to think that my husband being called into the ministry as a preacher was the worst possible fate I could have been handed, now I know that it was actually God’s calling on my life to be a preacher’s wife.

PAM WINN - I used to think I was teaching children, but now I know I am loving them.

So much has changed in the 19 years I have been teaching. I have changed- married, had children, divorced, remarried, had another child….. I have grown. I have felt hurt and I have known being scared about life and I have loved and I have lost. All of these things made me a better, more informed teacher. Because of the struggles I have had I am more aware of the struggles of my students. Additionally my students have changed over the past 19 years. I know many of them have great lives, but more and more of them do not. They come from homes where parents cannot help or do not want to help them with their schoolwork. Families lose their jobs. Families are poor. Families are homeless. Families are scared and sometimes the last thing on their mind is school or their child. Please remember what I am describing is not all children and families, but I see more and more families like this each year. I will never know all the burdens in the lives of my young students but I pray every day that them knowing I love them and I care for them and I worry about them- I pray that will lift their burdens just a little.

I used to think I was teaching children, but now I know I am loving them.

kas - Hi!
Please don’t add me to the drawing but I wanted to say BOB GOFF is totally AWESOME!! We saw him speak last year at the Global Leadership Summit and completely fell in love with him. His ideas about the do-ing of Jesus’ work has opened so many paths for us in the past year and we’ve been so happy to support Restore International since becoming acquainted with him. Go Bob Go!!

Jenn - I used to think I was pretty selfless and put others first…then I got married and realized I am way more selfish than I realized. I realized I need Gods grace and my husbands forgiveness daily!

Vicki - I used to think that I had to have my life all in order to be used by God, HA!!! If that was the case none of us would ever be ready!

Andrea - I used to think I had to do everything exactly right to raise “good kids,” now I know I just need to love the stuffing out of them, do my best, and God is in charge. (He’s doing really well!)

Nicole Stone - I used to think that I would never have a healthy, loving relationship with my mom, and now I know that God makes all things new and can redeem even the most broken of relationships.

Debra @ MsMoozys Open House - I used to think I was not good enough to help God in his works but now I know that I am and now I just need to make sure I LISTEN when He is talking.

This would be awesome to win and thank you for sharing with us today. 🙂

Sara - you know? I used to think two funny things: one was that God never listened to me and one day I just forget Him. And the other was that my family was broken for a loooooong time because my biological father left us when I was 3… Then my “real” father appeared and I loved him a lot but he died a few years after so I kept thinking our family wasn’t a family… But now I know that we are a family because we love each other like crazy! 🙂 It’s not a normal family (just my mom, my sister and I) but which one is? And I’ve learned God is always hearing us, loving us and keeping us safe in his arms. Me, my family and all the people I love, because I pray for them.

Just wanted to tell you that I’ve been following your lovely blog for quite a long time now and I’ve learned lots and lots of things and not meaning just craft stuff 🙂

Ramey H - I used to think that having kids wouldn’t change our life very much–HA!!

Terri Upton - I used to think everything had to be perfect but now I know it is better to stop and smell the roses and to enjoy the journey.

Becca - Oh I could write a book (except apparently someone already did ha) of all the things I used to think but now I know differently. Mostly, I used to think I had a lot of the answers, and now I’m realizing I’m only just beginning to learn the questions.

jennifer - I used to think there was one, standard, acceptable way to do things. (My dad’s way.) And since I’ve been married for 10 years, my husband, who is exceedingly smart yet gracious, has shown me that there can be multiple ways to do anything. And all of them could be correct and effective.

Trish - I used to think that my mistakes defined me, now I know that God is a God of second chances and wants to use my mistakes for his purpose.

Crazy thing is you are the third person in two days that has been talking about that book…..

Heather - FFG looks like she has a bob cut in the selfie picture. Shannon get a bob!! You look super chic and down right hip!!!

Tobi - I used to think I could keep everything under control. Now I know that’s not my job!

Tami Sickels - I used to think I had to have the perfect, clean house and total organization for me to be able to minister and serve others in my home now I know God uses even the most unorganized and messiest of houses to show people His love. (It’s a good thing I know this because now I have 5 kids.)

Jane - I used to think that the old testament was about people who lived many many years ago, but last night at bible study I learnt that it teaches us that we all fail in the same way, we worship created things and blessings in our lives rather than the creator and source of all blessing. Gosh God has such abundant patience with me!! I would love to read this book, sounds as though it would be good in continuing this process of shifting my mindset in a number of different ways!

PS I don’t even know you but WOW your legs are fabulous!

Carla - I used to think a Jesus-lover looked a certain way. Now I know there is so much beauty in all of us looking so wonderfully different.

Shannon - I used to think that I knew what was best for my life. Now I know God knows best

Lisa - I used to think I could earn God’s favor, but now I know it’s ALL grace! Good news, for sure!

Janna - I used to think that ignorance was bliss…..not I know it’s just that you are uneducated. Believe me – I wish I could go back to blissful ignorance with my eating and health – but when you get knocked on your butt by health problems you don’t get that choice anymore. I wish ppl without health problems would get educated BEFORE they HAD to so they could save their health!!! Whole foods and no grains baby;) Thanks for the chance to win! And wow you do have nice legs! No, I’m not bein creepy:) You have worked hard for them!

Sara - I used to think my children would never have snotty noses, would always be cutely dressed and would never throw tantrums in public, but now I know better and I love them still. And, even though I am not perfect, I know that God still loves me too!

Megan - I used to think that life was a competition against others that I needed to win, now I think that life is a cooperative journey, each of us doing the best we can.

Amy Woods - I used to think I couldn’t do this or that, or be this or that because of the “hand life had dealt me.” Now I’m learning through God I can live above my circumstances. 🙂

elizabeth H - I used to think “i always fell short. the Father was displeased with something i was doing…i could never do ____ good enough.
I can’t be enough.”
Daily, i look at Him & hear that He says “You are righteous. You don’t have to do ____. I’ve redeemed you. I call you MINE. nothing you can do can make me love you more ~ nothing you DON’T do will cause me to love you less.”

**good.good.stuff!**

Heidi Henderson - I use to think that my kids would all grow up and live long, I now know that life takes over and we are not promised that and something can happen to your child to shorten there life and you can do nothing.

debi - I used to think taking care of yourself as a mom was selfish but I know now that you need to for yourself as well as your family. Whatever that feeds your soul whether it be reading, crafting, paddle boarding, alone time, girlfriend time etc.

C - I used to think I had the ability to “just be patient,” and other things when parenting… duh, I NEED the Lord’s help BIG time!

Nicole - I used to think that questioning my faith stemmed from spiritual immaturity, but now I know that my inability to understand every facet of Christianity, yet loving Jesus regardless of my comprehension of dogma, is just how my faith looks…imperfect, just like me.

Linda R. - I used to think parenting was fairly simple and easy. Then I had three kids and now I have no idea what I’m doing. 🙂

Jenn - that there isn’t just one way to parent.

Sue - I used to think “things will slow down tomorrow and I will be able to spend quality time with the Lord then”. Now I know that is a lie. God isn’t wanting the perfect Quiet Time but a relationship, and a conversation that goes on all day, throughout the mess and busyness. He doesn’t want perfection, he just wants me.

Wendy C - I used to believe that I was doing my family a disservice by not being there all the time for them, but now I know that I am a better wife, mom, person when I spend some quality alone time (or getaway weekends with a friend) to recharge. Good for you – love all your purchases. You inspired me to hit my Marshall’s this week. I found so many fun finds and felt recharged after a quiet hour to myself!

Shannon - I used to think taking a Sabbath was something outdated. As my kids are growing older and as a working mom I’m learning everyday that taking a Sabbath is needed not just for me but for our family.

becky j - WOW..this book sounds like a MUST read…I used to think certain things didn’t happen to Jesus girls…like miscarriages, root canals and broken dreams…NOW I know the rain falls on us all..BUT Jesus holds our hands through it and weaves it into something gorgeous at the end!! Thanks Meg..xo

staci torgerson - I used to think I was just a plain, unimportant daughter to my earthly parents. Now I know I’m a daughter of the King and He delights in me.

Maryellen - I used to think having many friends was my goal, but now I know one or two great friends is ideal. Would love to read this book!

Tracy L - I used to think I was too weak, and too scared honestly, to get out there and run, now I know I was so very wrong, I can do it annnnd love it at the same time! Bonus– I’ve never felt better!

Laura Williams - I used to think I knew how to pray. There is no wrong way, right? It wasn’t until my Dad was dying that I figured out I was asking for the wrong things. I changed my way of thinking and my prayers were answered. Deep stuff 🙂

Tiffany Gardner - I used to think homeschooling families were CRAZY. Honestly… I kinda still think that…and this August… We will be a homeschooling family. Seriously… in college, I did my applied speech over the top 10 reasons not to homeschool. So funny of God to lead me to do what I said I would never do. It wasn’t that I wasn’t familiar with the idea.. my husband and his siblings were homeschooled. Honestly… I just didn’t understand it. I felt the Lord leading us to do this when my 10 year old went to pre-k. Every year as my kids have gone on to another grade .. I think.. I know, I know… next year, Lord, next year I will do it. Finally… something sparked in me this year to be brave. Listen… I am SCARED to death. I will have a 5th grade boy, a 3rd grade girl and a 3 year old. SCARY. But … I finally told God.. ok. I am ready to try this. I am so grateful the Lord has been patient with me. I just didn’t want to be at my son’s high school graduation and be thinking I wish I would have tried. I wonder what we missed??? So in August… I will be brave. I will be crazy. I will homeschool my kids.

Shar Y - I used to think if I didn’t say bad things like criticism or slander out loud that it was ok. You know, okay, just to think it but don’t say it. But, guess what? God hears me anyway, thinking those bad thoughts or criticizing or cursing, etc. And, I was literally shocked to the core when I realized how often I do that. So, I take it one day at a time and try to redirect my thoughts to nicer things. And, remember, God is listening…

Shawna - I used to think God was good some of the time and now I know God is good all the time.

Meredith W. - I used to think vegetables were gross. Now I know they’re the yummiest food to eat. 🙂

Kim - I used to think my kids had to be perfect (do things), but now I know they are perfect just the way God made them.

Marjie - I used to think God wouldn’t give me more than I could handle…..Now I know he will give me more than I can handle to ensure I rely on him!

Teri - I used to think I had to be all for everyone, now I know better.

Robin Canter - I used to be very judgmental and I know the Bible says I will be judged by the same measure I judge others. Ouch. I’m a work in progress.

Martha - I use to think life was hard, God made it easier

karen - I use to think I needed to fit into a certain mold – act a certain way, look a certain way, be the busiest – work the longest hours. Then I had a health scare that set me on a different course about 6 months ago. Now I find time for me, make time for friends, have date night with my hubby more – and I am so much happier.

Margie Rowles - I use to think that I knew everything…but now I realize that I learn something new almost every day!

Tina - I used to think that I wasn’t for God if I supported my sister’s gay life style. Loving on my sister makes me for God!!

Christine - I used to think God tolerated me, but now I know God is crazy about me.

Rhonda F - I used to think I was too old or not smart enough to get into nursing school. But now I know neither are true! I am an honor student starting nursing school in January! God is Good!

katie p - I used to think that the Lord kept a list of my wrongs, but I know now that he loves me no matter what I do or don’t do and that there’s no list!

Heather - I used to think I had learned to accept myself in my 20s and become comfortable in my skin….until I became a mom at 38…and the battle of insecurity rolled again…

Jenny - I used to think no one should ever let their children wear costumes out shopping, then I became a mommy and quite regularly we are a mix of pirates, superheros, princesses and cowboys complete with capes, masks, feather boas and tutu’s 🙂

Rebekah - I used to think parenting couldn’t be that hard at all….now, well, all of us moms know the truth. But I wouldn’t trade it for anything!

Jenny B. - Mine is totally not spiritual, or even thought-provoking. It’s just what popped into my head… I used to think I wanted to live in Alaska (I blame the TV show “Northern Exposure”), but now I know I really don’t like cold weather. Nope. I don’t. 🙂

Lisa - I used to think I could keep my world tidy and in control. Now I know there is beauty and hilarity in the chaos and messiness of my life!

april R - Wow! these comments are so inspiring – I love Dara and Gretchen’s.
I used to think that I had all the time in the world…that I would accomplish those dreams “someday”…but now I see that there’s today and I shouldn’t put things off for “someday”
(thanks Meg, really, thanks)

Christy - I used to think my girls would remember every wrong thing I’ve done while parenting themt, now I know/continue to hope that they will see that the decisions I’ve made (no matter how they turned out) were rooted in a fierce love for them.

Sarah Moske - I used to think that I wasnt strong….but now I know I am 🙂

Christy S - I used to think parenting was somewhat easy and then I had kids.

s - I used to think you had to travel and do big,cool things to have a wonderful, meaningful, worthwhile life..and now I know that a life worth living can be one lived right here at home as long as it is filled with love, kindness, giving, hard work and lots and lots of laughter.

Melissa - I used to think I wanted the kids to grow and now I just want time to stop.

Laura - I used to think that people who are really close to God did not make terrible mistakes, now I know that (like David) we are still human.

Jamie - I used to think that guacamole was this weird green stuff but now I know it’s actually awesomely yummy! I have heard great things about this book and it’s on my ‘to read’ list. 🙂

Erin - I used to think I was never going to get the chance to be a mother, now I know God was just waiting for the perfect baby to be placed with me.

Jaime - I used to think guacamole was this weird green stuff but now I know it’s awesomely yummy and my new favorite food! 🙂 I have heard great things about this book! Now, I need to read it.

Mary Elizabeth Brown - I use to THINK that God’s grace was conditional, but now I KNOW God’s grace is given in all conditions.

Tonya Upton - I used to think that God (and others) loved me because of all the things I do for them, now I know they love me in spite of the things I do to them.

Rae - I used to think life would be easy when my kids reached xx age. Now I know it’s just different.

Julie - i used to think that good parenting produced good children. now i know that’s not how it works. humans are sinful, humans make choices, humans reject right teaching, our hearts are bent on doing evil. sad thoughts, but it is truth. also takes a *tiny* bit of pressure off as a parent.

Marla - I used to think I should be in control….now I believe its best that God’s in control

Jill Helman - I used to think my worth came from what others thought of me or what I was doing but now I know that I am worthy because God loves me and created me.

Brenna - I used to think that my past defined me, but now I know that God doesn’t even have a record of those mistakes. What a life-giving blessing.

jennibell - I used to think I could “do it all” (wife, mom, teacher, daughter, sister, aunt, coach, etc.) but now know that it’s impossible and I have to look to Him for His direction in my life. And then DO it well (instead of *everything*).

Amy - I used to think I’d NEVER let my kids watch tv. Then I had kids…and needed to get one or two things DONE in my day. A half hour or hour of Elmo isn’t going to kill them.

Momma Bug - I used to think that wanting to do “big” things for God was a noble aspiration. Now I know that faithfully doing the small insignificant things over and over just because I love Jesus and He wants my friendship every day… is what it’s all about.

Meg, I have so enjoyed your blog over the years and loved your vibrant use of color, your lovely photos, your sincere heart…
Thank you.

Love

Jan - I used to think my house needed to be perfect before inviting people in; now I know that hospitality is really an attitude that is more about the people than the place.

Barbara (WA) - I used to think that my emotions needed to be smooshed and never shared, never. Stiff upper lip stuff. I have found great freedom embracing all my emotions – none of them are wrong. They are human!

Heather F - I used to think that I had to keep changing things about myself to live a better life, but now I believe that I am fine just the way I am. Why change when I’m already so awesome! 🙂

Heather S. - I used to think I had to have all the answers before God could use me. Now I know that all I have to do is make myself available and God will give me the answers I need when I need them.

Seamingly Sarah - I used to think my children wouldn’t see my bad habits (temper) but now I know they are true unrelenting reflections of me and I need to shape up and start reflecting a more patient and loving heart.

Tracey Garcia - What nice legs you have!

Heidi Durant - Thinking differently: talking to s trangers. You know that old rule we were taught as children? ! While yes, I still tell my children NOT to talk to strangers, I myself do talk. I have really gone out of my comfort zone to do so. I don’t consider myself shy, once you get to know me. But now, I jump into conversations with strangers ALL the time. It is so fun. New friends. Awkward looks. And laughs had by all.

tonya - i used to think i’d never allow myself to slack off on my end of my relationship with Jesus, but now i know slacking off has pushed me further away from the most important thing, Jesus…and he’s still there just waiting for me to get my crap together.

btw…you’re totally rockin’ that running skirt, sister!

Jennifer R. - I use to think that the saying was “nip it in the butt”. My BFF (when we met just 7 yrs ago) corrected me. I now know it’s “nip it in the bud”. I am, however, still trying to figure out “buck naked” or “butt naked”! Anyone?

Jenn - I used to think that the days with my babies were long, but now I know that the years were too short. Savor the time with your wee ones!!

Chelsea - I used to think that my kids were the only ones who threw the couch pillows on the floor and left their blankets strewn all over when they were done with them. I’ve just had a light bulb moment…. I’m going to arrange all the pillows beautifully on the floor and see if they notice, maybe they will even pick them up and put them back on the couch. Parenting is just one experiment after another 🙂

Katie - One more thing- could you share the source for your kitchen island pendant lights? They are great! Better yet- please come style my home!

Amy S. - I used to think I had to go to another country to do mission work but I know I can do it here in the states too!

Katie - Love the bathing suit! Just bought the same one at TJ a few weeks ago. I used to think you needed the perfect way to tell people about Jesus and how his loves changes us. Now know it can come out of you in so many ways and you don’t need the perfect words or story. You just need to be yourself and ask God to work though you.

Amber - I used to think God cared for me from lofty heights above, now I know that He cares deeply for me right here. : )

Leslie Leon - I use to think I had to do everything, say yes, and be involved in everything to be a good parent/wife/friend now I know I need to spend time being more intentional and connecting with friends and family.

momoftwo - I used to think I had to do it all myself but now I know that I can lean on God and others.

Shannon - I used to think that how I reacted to life wasn’t my choice, but now that I choose positive attitudes I am so much happier with the life God has given me!

Joy - I used to think that I had to have “it” altogether, but now I know that my imperfections are quirky and beautiful and sharing mine give others freedom to be okay with theirs.

Sheila - I used to think eveyone was looking at me, now I know they don’t even see me.

Sandy - I used to thing going to church on Sunday was the norm now I know that Sabbath, like the 4th Commandment, is on Saturday!

Sara Torbett - I used to think I was weird or out of place for loving art and photography so much. Now I know it’s exactly who God made me to be and I’m proud of that.

Katie Merrill - I used to think life just happened to me, but now I know that I can make life happen.

Laura Oyler - I used to think that Jesus loves other people more than He loves me, now I know that He loves me just as much as everybody else!

Amanda - I used to consume myself with having “good kids”. I read this quote this week: “Don’t let yourself be so concerned with raising a good kid that you forget you already have one”
After reading that I knew it was such a true statement. 🙂
I’ve heard great stories about this book!

Wendy - I used to think if I put a BIG hamper in the bathroom it would matter, but now I know it’s useless.

Kathi - I used to think monsters lived under my bed, but now I know it’s just bunnies 🙂

debbie - I used to think I was a bad person (or wife, or mother), if I had a bad (aka..grumpy) day. Now I know I am human, and God does not love me any less when I have those days.

Ruth Umney - I used to think that I was not good enough, now I know that God has an amazing purpose just for me, and He is working it ALL out in His timing, not mine!!!
I do so love your blog!!! xxx

chrissi - i used to think things would change but now i know that i had to change. made all the difference.

stephanie - I used to think I had all the answers, but now I know only God does.

Cassie Spencer - Money makes you happy. Not true! After my hubby lost his job a few years ago a well paying one and our life was turned upside down. Almost losing our house and having to downsize everything. He is now back to making more than he was before. Going through the tight times made me much more thankful for all we do have and my little family. And to focus on moments and people not things.

Erin - I used to think that my identity is something I had to create. Now I know my identity is found in Christ!

kelly s - I already have the book and LOVED IT beyond words. I laughed OUT LOUD, loud, many many times. I just loved it. And it backs up with I already know to be true. LOVE DOES. It is a VERB. An action word, and I want to love verbally (I made up that word)….I LOVED this book. I want more just like this.
Thanks.
Kelly

Laura - I used to think I needed to follow all of God’s rules, but now I know he loves me and others regardless and he desires a relationship.

layla bb solms - I used to think that “things and stuff” would make me happy, but now I know (and remind myself daily) that only Jesus’ love and grace can do that.

just for fun …

I used to think I liked sweetened, syrupy, lattes, but now I know that the best drink of all is the Café (con) Miel from The Abbey Coffee.

Janice H - I used to think loving on people, volunteering and helping others benefited the people receiving. After a month long mission trip to a kids camp in Albania, now I know that it is far more beneficial for me. What you learn from people who are living totally different from yourself is astonishing and totally enlightening. 🙂

Sarah - I used to think my mom knew everything about being a mother, now (being a mama) I know that she was just really good at hiding her uncertainty!

Jessy - For me, I used to think being a mother wasn’t enough for the kingdom. How was I supposed to be used by God if I’m home all day everyday with my children. I now know without a shadow of doubt that my children are my calling. My four year old and I have many discussions about who Christ is and what he asks of us.

Sabrina - Before I had children, I had all the answers on how to raise them the “right” way. And then I had children… Everything is turned upside down from what I thought was the right way. Each child is so different and there is no one right way for raising them.

Maegan C - I used to think I always needed a plan for life to be successful, now I know I just need faith and a good attitude!

Kelli - I used to think that I was alone and not part of a community until the last 3-4 months that I found a new church which is now my family. I have friends and family as well as a living God who love me beyond words.

Sarah{Handbags*and*Pigtails} - I was raised to believe(“used to think”) that hospitality meant that every square inch of your home HAD TO look magazine perfect before anyone could be invited in. Growing up with that kind of “stress” makes you realize you dont want to be like that when you have your own home. So Ive had to “re-learn” that hospitality is no such thing-its about the other person/people…inviting them in(no matter what the house looks like) and being real with them…and in turn allowing them to be real with you…in your authentic space. I just realized Id really changed my mentality about all this a few weeks ago- we were expecting guests from Virginia(we’re in NY) for a week and they’d emailed a certain time they would arrive. I hadn’t showered or changed(or even put my bra on) all morning bc I was doing last minute things. Well, long story short, they showed up EARLY and there I was in my bathrobe, no bra…and the only thing I could say to them was “well, at least I brushed my teeth! Come on in!” What a humbling moment! If I told my mother that story she’d probably die. But Ive learned to say “oh well! Come on in!”

Stephanie C - I used to think I wasn’t good at ANYTHING. Now I know God is working to show me the gifts he gave me.

mandy - I used to think I’d be a sweet, patient mom, with sweet, obedient kids…then I became a mom 😉

Jennifer P - Sounds like a perfect weekend!

I used to think I had to meet other people’s (and my own, yikes!) expectations, but now I know that God says I am already enough

🙂 I learned this recently and it has CHANGED my LIFE!

Michelle Whitlow - I used to think I couldn’t control how people treat me but now I know it’s my actions & choices in life have a big impact on how I allow others to treat me.

Btw, LOVE that swimsuit!!! I’ve been looking for one like that. I hate swimsuit shopping. Just bought one at Target and it’s going back 🙁

Jennifer B. - Love the baskets and the cute swimsuit! Isn’t it nice to get away AND have a retail therapy trip? I did that with a friend last week, and I felt SOOO great afterward! I loved the “Million Miles” book. This one sounds interesting too. “I used to think life would get easier as you got older but now I know that you’re thrown challenges no matter what age you are!”

martha - I used to think that I was to old (50+) to “start over” but with Jesus in my life I know it’s never too late to change! He’s right here with me…I couldn’t do it without Him!

Lee Johnson - Hmmmmm, that book looks and sounds familiar! Yep! it is in my pile of books to read . . . . I had the privilege of hearing him speak and had to have his book. It will go on the top of the pile. I used to think that Grandmothers were OLD but now that I am one, they aren’t! My necklace that I got at the Craft Weekend says, “Act old later.”

Kristin S - Look at your gorgeous legs!!!!

Love that swimsuit too. Totally adorable yet age-appropriate.

Cathy - I used to think of my self as less, now I think of my self less

Sarah M - I used to think I had to have all my crap together and be supermom in order to have value, I now know having Jesus be my focus makes those other things moot.

Mickie - I loved everything about this post including the baskets and swimsuit! And, the idea of taking a little break from our regular life. I could use one of those too… And I love books like this so here goes: I used to think I would be in control and teach everything to my son. I now know that God is in control and being Jackson’s mom is teaching me way more about myself than I ever thought possible. Sometimes those lessons are hard and as I say “it’s not for sissies” but I now know this is part of God’s way bigger plan for me than I could have ever imagined for myself.

Rachel S - This book sounds great and I’m glad you had so much fun with a friend. I used to think that I would be in those diaper-changing, busy toddler days forever. Now I know that in a blink of an eye, those little toddlers grow up and the first one is soon to graduate. I’m so thankful that God blessed me to be able to stay home with my kids those early years and I’m so thankful for the wonderful grown-up kids they have turned out to be. God bless!

Julie A - God has been telling me lately that He has it all figured out. That I can lean on Him, and trust His timing, even though it’s soooo hard. He’s provided those little bits of encouragement, just when I need them! BTW, I love your running skirt, too. 🙂

Molly B - I used to think my life was hard but now i think with Jesus I can do anything.

Jessica - I used to think that God wouldn’t give me more than I could handle. I even used to say this to people who were facing a trial :/. Now I know that He doesn’t give me more than he can see me through. I totally CAN’T handle it. HE can.

Gina - I used to think the word “s*#t” displeased God, now I know it doesn’t. How silly, right? I don’t know why I thought of that first. Guess it was the funny story my son told me. 😛

Sandra K - This is a funny one:
I used to think that if I ever had a daughter, her hair would always be perfectly styled, neat and tidy and she’d look like she walked out of GapKids everyday…
but now I know that days get busy, hair gets messy and sometimes she wants to express her style and own creativity through her clothes. 🙂

GB Jost - I used to think God waited in heaven watching and waiting for me to screw up. Now I understand he loves me and just wants me to be willing–not perfect.

Amber Treat - I used to think that if something was hard, it meant I shouldn’t do it. Now I know that sometimes doing a hard thing brings out the best in me.

Candice - I used to think that if my life was problem-free I was in God’s favor, if it was problem-ful I was out of God’s favor; now I know that he uses it all for good and my life circumstances will never change how he loves me.

Melissa - Where did you get that suit? LOve it have a similar one from last year but that color is soooo pretty! I also love your running skirt and super cute Shannon

Marlie B - I used to think I was nobody but now I know I am somebody because I am a child of God!

Leslie - I used to think that once my kids were past the baby stage I wouldn’t worry so much, but now I see that the older they get the more things there are you just can’t control. But with Jesus I’m trying to replace worry with prayers and faith. I’m sure this book would be an awesome read.

Alexis K - I used to think it was about making the most money, now I know it’s instead about His gifts that don’t cost a thing. Just love, faith and obedience.

Julie W - I used to think I couldn’t do scary things by myself; like drive over 400 miles to a place I’ve never been, to spend a weekend with a bunch of ladies I’ve never met. But now I know, even though I was nervous, scared to death, and my hands were ice cold and sweaty at the same time, I can…and did…and had the time of my life…with you, Meg, and Kimberlee, and Ashley Ann, and Megan, and a whole bunch of other amazing ladies! I’d do it again in a heartbeat!

Tricia - I used to think I was a pretty good role model for my children, but now I know they behave the way they do because I do the same behaviors…now that I’ve looked in the mirror. I need to do a 180 if I want to see some changes. I need to asap…

Michelle - I used to think being a good parent meant raising perfect children. Now I know that being a good parent means celebrating the perfectly imperfect children that you raise.

Molly - I used to think i had the perfect plan for my life, now i know that god’s plan is way better.

Marcia - I have been looking for baskets JUST LIKE those for our “Florida Room” … as a busy full-time working mama I am wondering if you can tell me where you got them – TJ Maxx or Home Goods … I would love to hit ONE place not both. Thanks so much! 🙂

Tracy - I used to think i could “train” my kids to put their stuff away…and put the pillows back on the couch….and fold the blankets….haha!!

Jenn - All good stuff! I wish we had a Homegoods….one day!

Not that long ago I use to think I had to do everything for my kids, home (keeping it clean) and school (volunteering too much), now I’m not saying I still don’t think that I should from time to time, but I now know that I don’t have to. They will not remember that I volunteered to do the yearbook, or the decorations at the carnival. They will remember that I was there and that doesn’t mean I have to kill myself volunteering for everything. They won’t remember the house wasn’t spotless, they will remember going to the park or getting snow-cones. Its hard and there are many more things that I’m sure I can think of if given the time. But that’s what’s great about getting older and experiencing life. You learn not to think so much and to just know its going to be ok. And I’m ok with that.

Gretchen N. - I used to think that loving & following God meant I had to give up things, but now I know it’s really about everything I gain!

Maureen S - I used to think that 40 was old…now I know when you’re 40 you feel like you’re 30. Age is only a state of mind. I do like that time has given me the advantage of knowing myself better. I dont mind telling people my age…I’ve earned it:)

Toni :O) - I used to think I lived in a safe area but now I know that is untrue since having my home broken into a few months ago. It’s very unsettling, I hope to get that settled feeling back someday.

Flower Patch Farmgirl - I used to think it was possible to eat too many red beet salads. Now I know there is NO LIMIT!

ps- I meant to tell you that I’ve always thought you had the best legs. But that seemed…creepy. But it’s true and your picture reminded me. Bye.

Dara Miller - I used to think that I was not good enough.. now I KNOW that I am beautifully and wonderfully made. Praise GOD!

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April 1, 2014 Filed in crafts & art,faith,random,recipes

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TP8RB7UZHKI

have you seen this kid?
oh that mama… she must be so tired every night.
pretty funny little guy.

 

last week i made this for dinner.

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Crockpot Sweet Potato Chicken Chili.
my husband LOVED it.  i did too.  and two of my kids were brave and tried it.
and they said almost convincingly “i like it.”
i don’t believe them but they tried it and ate it too.
things are coming along… last year there is no way they would have tried it.

 

i have been listening to sermons again.
i REALLY enjoyed this series by Andy Stanley called Just Ask It.
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i love how he can speak to anyone… whether you have been a christian a long time, brand new or if you don’t believe in jesus at all.
he is relatable.
he makes you think.
i think he’s cool.
if you have time driving in your car… out for a run or at the gym.. or just cooking dinner in your kitchen… throw this sermon series on and you will like it.   😉

 

 

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ummm…. how rad is that shower???
i don’t think i would have the guts to do it but i do love it.
it looks fancy.
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doesn’t this look so crazy good?!!!
i found the picture on pinterest with a dumb tumbler link to no where.
BUT i am going to imagine that there is a waffle truck somewhere in the world that makes stuffed waffle sandwiches.
doesn’t that sound dreamy?
i would love for someone to drive a waffle truck in to my driveway and bring me one.

 
and lastly….

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i would like to sit and make this.
because it looks so relaxing.
i know i probably wouldn’t DO anything with these painted leaves… but creating is sometimes just for the sake of being creative.
not about WHAT you make… or what you will do with it.
it’s sitting down… stopping the busy around you… and creating.
in that moment.
i hope i can sometime soon-ish.

 

what is going on with you today?
are you making crafty projects?  taking a nap?  cooking dinner?  reading a book?
please share.  🙂

 

 

 

 

 

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Grace - Long time reader, first time commenter, but I couldn’t resist. I’m glad you are enjoying Andy’s series. You’ll have to listen to the current one he is doing. Been on staff at North Point for 9 years now, and he still nails it. Every. Time. Anyways, if you are interested in any of the other sermons, mom resources, or small group content, let me know! I’d be happy to send some your way. Thanks for sharing your tidbits of life with us. Encouraged often.

phyllis - You’ve got me on a internet-wide waffle hunt!
I think I found yours at B.Street Waffles in San Francisco:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-TplqI76oCk annnd, apparently,
you can have them sent to your door 😀

http://bstreetwaffles.com/product-category/waffles/

Candice McLean - YUM! The stuffed waffles looks delicious. Those painted leaves look dynamite… a great idea for a kiddo (and parent) fun project. Thanks for sharing!

tricia - My girls make the leaf casts every year in art class. i have a whole collection at this point. and no, i never really know where to put them. but i love them so. 🙂

Jane - At 50 I have gone back to college! Never finished and I am so lucky I can now. I have to finish a paper and a book. Learning is amazing..

Will try the recipe!! Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day!

amy - That little guy’s antics may be cute now, but that mama is unknowingly teaching her kiddo how to argue, bargain and be in control. I wanted to find that little guy a naughty stool – and fast!

April R - i like random 🙂
and waffles
and fancy bathrooms
and crafting for creativities sake
And I listened to Andy Stanley on the way to my Aunt’s house today. Title was “Follow” – specifically “Follow Wear” – really really good. I was planning on listening to his sermon “Nick and Joe Save Easter” again soon – if you haven’t checked that one out it’s really great as well. I’ll have to check out “Ask It”
Thanks for encouraging others to listen to good teaching and to be crafty and find all kinds of random things to enjoy in life

Elizabeth - I made the chili for dinner tonight and my family loved it. Thank you so much for sharing healthy recipes. It’s always good to have new recipes.

Cindy - The boy needs a few pow-pows! He would drive me insane.

Sara - Oh my have you never head waffles and ice cream!?! Our county fair has them every year! So worth the calories just once a year! 🙂

Stephanie C - Love these posts!
I am…..
trying to finish my last classes before earning my bachelor’s degree
finishing up lunch for the kids
looking up homeschooling curriculum for the next school year (we start over again in the summer when it’s too hot in FL to do anything else)
Missing my husband who is away for a month who also caught shingles in MD and cannot fly home even though he can’t work
Trying to figure out how to not go crazy with my seven kids and I in this house indefinitely waiting on dad to come home…someday. So thankful for FL’s early springs so I can see lots of life in the garden already.

Cara Kuester - I have a question about your 21 day fix challenge. I feel like although I don’t know you I can relate completely with your health journey. I have four kids at home-a picky eater husband and I just want to enjoy foods but lose about 15 pounds. I exercise regularly but can’t seem to stay on a health eating plan. Can you give any advice or encouragement. Thanks! I appreciate your honesty and openness to share your story and life with all us strangers.

Krystle - Sitting in my favorite leather chair checking in on your blog, dreaming about renovating my kitchen someday, and avoiding the laundry pile on the floor next to me.

Beth Ann - Megan, you have in part help to inspire me. For about 5 years I have exercised regularly – 3-5 times a week, but decided to get serious about it and the nutrition part. I joined a local ‘9 week challenge’ place to kick it up a few exercise notches and to get nutrition guidance. I am only 1 week in, but it feels good. I thought I would share my favorite snack/meal: http://iowagirleats.com/2012/07/09/no-heat-required-greek-dip-platter/

No fun things planned today, although it is early out for my kids from school. I would like to think of something fun to do with them after I get off work and they get out of school…..

Ari @ Ari's Menu - So glad you enjoyed the chili! Also, you could totally make your own stuffed waffles and then you get to put whatever you want in them like…NUTELLA! 🙂

Tiffany Gardner - OKC has awesome stuffed waffles. Waffle Champion used to be a food truck and now… they have a restaurant! Next time you are in OKC… stop by.. it is awesome!

Michelle from Australia - I’m in Upstate New York today. About to get on a plane to fly to Seattle.

Nicole - Had to comment about the waffles, as they brought back a wonderful memory. Whenever my brother and I would spend the night at my Poppy’s (Grandpa’s) house, he would make us waffle sandwiches as a treat. Two waffles with strawberry ice cream for the filling. YUMMMM… so good!

Rachel - So lets see…. yesterday I re-roofed the back yard awning in preparation for a “rain storm” that lasted all of 1 hour and was in the middle of the night. Today after helping sort 5000 items of clothing for our annual MOMS Club clothing swap benefiting the Mother To Mother Fund charity, I thought it would be a good idea to hang a new gutter where the previous owners of our home had decided never needed a gutter (they were wrong) in preparation for the next rain storm. And now I sit here waiting for this next supposed “storm” and wondering if maybe I should have just played dragons with the kids instead. After all, its LA. It never rains here. Only the ground shakes here.

Sandra - Love your ‘Random’ posts!
I’m on spring break enjoying Florida sunshine with my family. It’s been delightful. 🙂

Kristin S - That kid is going to be a famous attorney someday.

Jfryer - http://www.foodcartsportland.com/2007/10/23/flavour-spot/

Flavour Spot-Check out their menu 🙂

We were just introduced to one of these food carts in Portland, OR. So fun and yummy!

tasha roe - that chili looks divine!
cleaning and organizing after an ikea and target run.
our pastor, robert morris at Gateway http://www.gatewaypeople.com will knock your socks off! Texas has some awesome churches!!

Carrie - Have you tried waffatopia?

http://waffatopia.com

I am not an affiliate for them, we just live in their area and they are yummy waffles.

My two girls go back and forth with trying new foods. My youngest will eat literally all day and then when she sees meat on her plate she just can not take it. She is not super into new items lately which was a problem with my oldest a few months ago, they just can not get on the same page!! Luckily as far as veggie eaters go, I lucked out. They both get giddy over salads, one will eat ANY veggie and the other prefers most veggies raw which is fine.

Our Lent study is Adam Hamilton’s The Way. I like it and my oldest is doing the children’s version in her Sunday School class. It is nice to be doing the same thing.

Linda - we are on spring break! kids are home and i’m painting my bedroom this week!!! Love your random posts!

Julie - Right now I am putting off doing the vacuuming by reading my fave blogs. I have been to the bank and sorted out our mortgage, and I am hoping to play with some fabrics in my sewing room later today.

Enjoy your day.

Lisa - It’s snowing today (I think it’s a big fat April fool’s joke from God! ha!) and I had a ton of errands to do. Hate having to run errands in slushy snow. But I did exercise and am now home so that’s good. Hoping to take a nap this afternoon after school pick ups! Enjoy your day!

laura oyler - oh those waffle sandwiches…..can I have nutella on mine??

kathleen grace - Thank you for the link. I LOVE Andy Stanley, the man is a super genius:>) I’m listening to it right now as I type!

Necole@seriouslysassymama - I have a kid home sick today, so we went shopping, and I bought a pretty necklace. Taco soup is in the crock pot, and I am watching a movie while folding laundry. I started reading Me Before You, and I am already awaiting a gut wrenching ending. I have already cried twice. You should really listen to some pod casts from Matt Chandler at The Village Church here in Texas. He is awesome.

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